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writes:Hi, i'm 13 and when i was 12 there were about 6 or 7 boys who liked me and kept asking if i'd wanted to go out with or sometimes they asked if i would be their girlfriend but everytime i refused cause i wasn't ready for that kind of thing, at times they told my friends to say good things about them to me so i will get impressed and say yes but i'd know they've done that,this happened for a long time then i was 13 which was 6 months ago i had this teacher make me stay in the class at lunchtime and he told me to sit, i sat and he aksed me wheather i had a boyfriend i replied NO! but at that point i was thinking why on earth is he asking me this as this is not relevant to his class, and what he teaches after asking me he came closer and touched me in inapproprate places and grabbed on to me trying to kiss me, i sufficated, screamed, hit him, done my best to get away, i did and i ran out the class crying, then i made an attempt to go tell the head straight after but she was in a meeting, i tried telling other teachers but one was too busy, the other wasn't listening and one was on the phone so basically i had no one to tell of what just happened,i was still crying and scared, i went off to this place in school were i be most the time, i got my phone out and was about to call the childhelp line when that same teacher came (the one who attacked me), he smacked my phone on the ground and came closer to me, i was really scared but i had no way out, i got a stick of the ground, told him to leave me alone and pointed it wherever he went, but he broke it and i screamed, he qucikly grabbed me, and put his hand over my mouth, i carried on screaming but he started holding me tighter and was hurting me,i panicked, i kicked him, hit him but no luck. Finally students and teachers came as they heard my voice when i screamed, but the teacher would not let me go, he threatened to sexually abuse me, but then i stamped him on his foot and elbowed him in the stomach, and ran of out of school, and went home but no one opened i went back to school but hanged outside the school, i was too scared to see that same teacher as he scared me, then a boy who asked me out a couple of times came out of school and like kept me company, but he put his hand on my shoulder and i slapped his hand. after that day i couldn't trust anyone, and was mentally ill for a while, i stayed in hospital for some weeks cause of some marks/scars on my body, i wouldn't speak to anyone except that boy; he was the only one who helped me to get through everything and now i'm all fine and speak but am slightly scared of males. i like that boy now but i am still not comfortable with anyone touching me or any sexual physical contact. But i am told that i have made a lot of improvement and i think i have to as i have actually started liking someone. My question is how can i get past this? and move on with the boy i like, i keep having nightmares etc... but they are getting less.
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reader, -NothingLasts4ever- +, writes (31 January 2008):
 Tell the boy how you feel about people touching you. He should understand because of what you've been through and there's no reason why you can't make a go at it with this boy.Just make sure you let him know you're unhappy with other people touching you and over time you'll be fine with it.Hope this helps, mail me if you want to talk about anything elsexXx
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (31 January 2008):
 congratulations for getting through all that! i can definetely see why you are a bit fearful at the moment! does the boy know the situation about boys touching you? if not i would recommend you tell him so he understands, and this may increase your fear. just get to know the guy you like take it slowly and make sure you both know where you stand.
hope this helps
good luck sweetie
Sparkii x
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reader, Arkiteck  +, writes (31 January 2008):
Not to sound insensitive to your question, but I think the greater issue here is not your nightmares and such, but what happened to this teacher. Don't get me wrong, you're seeking professional help and getting better but it sounds like a problem that only time can fix with the re-assurtion that you're a good person and everything will be ok. But what is up with your school where you can run to a teacher crying and they don't have time for you? You did everything right, you got away and went to tell an authority figure. Dam if the Principal is in a meeting, i would have bursted into the meeting as i'm sure this would take precedence over whatever budget review there were doing. This has law suit of negligence written all over it. I would really like to know what happened to the teacher, I hope he's not there anymore.
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