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writes:After my ex-husband and I decided to split, I started seeing a man seriously. This man I had met at work turned out to be married (unhappily or so he has professed) and 21yrs my senior. I would have never guessed his age that's for sure; I figured him for in his early 50's, but that's irrelevant. It was a turbulant 4yrs but i cracked last yr and left a msg for his wife on their ans. machine about our relationship after he decided for the umpteenth time it was over. Needless to say that didnt go over well with anyone involved: him, her or myself. Here's my biggest problem, I am still in love with him. It's not that I can't have him, I seem to find myself comparing other men to him. I try not to....honestly I do. I have evenly met a new man but he's just coming out of a bad relationship (found out thru mutual friends) and well he seems kinda hesistant which I mite be putting out the same vibe. What do I do? Help me please cause I truly want to move on.
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (10 March 2011):
I guess, for me, I'd want a man who is 100% into me. One who does not have another life elsewhere. I am surprised at the married men who walk around with this tale of woe about their wife. I am more amazed at the number of women who fall for this old crap. Yes, crap! A married man is a married man. Period. He is not free to give you anything other than occasional sex. Maybe some professional counseling would help you see why you are attracted to this type of man.
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