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writes:I am very lonely, I have no friends, no boyfriend, there is nowhere to go in town, its living here. Nobody understands my loneliness and my sadness. I cry because I am so lonely and upset. There is nothing I can do about it. I go nowhere, I spend 365 days a year at home, I can't get a job and there are no jobs in Ireland.I cantt move anywhere, I have no money and no car. No one to email or talk any day. I am on bebo and face book but nobody bothers with me, nobody cares, I went to counsellors but there were no help. I joined organisations and associations and I was still alone and crying.I do sport no one bothers there with me either, I do make the effort but they don't make any effort with me.I have no life outside the house I live in. I'll always be alone like I have been all my life, looks like what's left of my so called life.I just can't escape... I AM STUCK IN RUT WITH NO ESCAPE.
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reader, CakeBaker  +, writes (18 September 2012):
Hey I just joined after reading your post. I know it was three years ago, but how are things going now? I'm in a similar situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): I know you posted this question a while ago, but I just had to post a message because I could feel my heart breaking when I read your story.
Like the last person said, if ever you want someone to open up to, you can send me a message.
I really hope that things are improving for you. Please don't give up. People do care about you, just look at all of us who have left you a message here!
Take care. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): if you ever need to just talk and let everything out you are welcome to message me. i am a good listen. I can be a good friend to. sometimes its good to just talk. it beats being lonely
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reader, AskEve +, writes (17 April 2009):
 There are jobs in every country to be gotten, you just need to look for them! I live in Scotland in a little rural village of less than 1,000 people so I know I DO understand more than you think. Like I said before YOU need to make things happen! YOU are the one with the mind. You have been sitting on your laurels too long waiting for something to come to you but it won't! YOU need to go and make that happen.Think of something you've always wanted to do, set up your own business, sound difficult? Business Gateway (UK) will help you, you'll be given a grant to get you started AND you can still claim your social security for up to 6 months. Didn't know that? Did you try to find out? THIS is what I mean about getting out there and looking for something, voluntary or otherwise.I don't believe for one nano second that there's nothing going on. Even in my very small rural village things happen! Maybe you've been shutting yourself away too long.Stop wallowing in your own self pity! Get out there and MAKE IT HAPPEN even if it means starting somewhere else, it's possible and feasible! As long as you have the want, a tongue in your head and clothes on your back you can do it! Instead of your passive attitude you need to adopt a positive one or you're already defeated. (I don't mean to offend, just giving you the verbal kick up the backside you sorely need!)~Eve~
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reader, SophiaB  +, writes (17 April 2009):
 Try to be more confident in yourself :) maybee that extra bit of confidence would make a difference to how your friendships or relationships work out. If you ever need to talk to anyone, just even for a random chat, e-mail me and i'm always here to talk.
SB
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): Annalisa THERE NO JOBS IN THE WHOLE COUNTRY NOT JUST THE TOWN I LIVE in .NO JOB=NO MONEY= NO CAR,i do make effort there are the ones who DON,T
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reader, shna +, writes (17 April 2009):
 stop feeling soory for your self get out there and live
move somewhere else
at least try
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): Eve you have no clue what its like for me, I am Irish and my attitude is fine, its a very small town I live in. The young people have no facilities to join they go pub 99% of time there is no where. You don,t know what are talking about you have not live my lonely life and I don't feel sorry for myself. life is very hard for me.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (17 April 2009):
You need to give yourself a kick up the backside! You are feeling so sorry for yourself. Of course if this is how you're feeling and you're convinced that things will never get better they won't, plain and simple!CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE!!! Instead of thinking all of these negative thoughts, think of positive thoughts instead and don't let this beat you. You have joined clubs and associations in the past but it was your defeatest attitude that has been keeping people from approaching you. When was the last time you smiled?You mentioned all the negative things about your life. Money may be tight but think of some of the positive things about your life. You have a roof over your head, you're still young with no baggage (children - reading between the lines) and you have your health and strength to get you through the day! Do you know you are in a much better position that 50% of the world today?Why don't you volunteer your services and work with some of the less privileged? Even offer to volunteer your time working in charity shops. Smile more and tell yourself when you get out of bed that today IS going to be a good day. Build up your self esteem and your confidence and do something (small) that you've never done in a long while. Do a good deed for another, treat yourself to something new (however small - even a 99p face mask).You have a mind, your feelings come from your mind therefore YOU can control your feelings. In other words, YOU are in charge and nobody else. YOU determine the future. And you become what you THINK. So think positive thoughts, get out there and and share your knowledge, know how and new, bright personality with others. Someone out there will be very glad of a friend like you. Push yourself a little and leave that defeatest attitude behind, you'll be glad you did!~Eve~
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