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writes:I was wondering if anyone felt the same way? Lately i have been so depressed i dont want to do anyhting but sleep and eat. I broke up from my ex a couple of months ago(he was emotonally abausive) but i am over that, but i still feel empty and sad over everything, even though i dont find him attractive and in my future anymore. The men i seem to like are older and taken, and that puts me down too. My friend tells me oh your 24 your pretty with a masters degree but I dont care for any of those. I have NO MOTIVATION 0 zero to do anything. My mother keeps pressuring me to get a better job because I am a graduate student but i cant even get up. All i think about is finding someone to be with, before i finished school i ran acrtoss a classmate who i fell madly for, but he was taken, and even though he contacted me and wanted to keep in touch he was taken.:( All i think about is this fantasy of him or finding someone like him, nothing else in my life seems to matter. I have gained 30 pounds but i cant even get out of bed. I dont want to go out, and i just want to sleep this pain away. I have a psychiatrist for my OCD, and take prozac but lately nothjing works.. I feel like i am dreaming my life away, like i am helpless and i cnat do anything. PEOPLE tell me "oh you have no REAL problems" you have a house, two degrees, ur pretty. but i cant see any of this, i just wake up sad and go to sleep sad. DreaMING OF A BETTER LIFE, OF A MAN THAT LOVES ME, OF AFFECTION.. is this deptression? does anyone havge any info on how to break this cycle. I feel helpless.. please someone, all i do is daydream about meeting the classmate i fell in love with, its sad becasue i have to find a better job and move out of my parents house, but i cant seem to break the cycle. I tried to go to the gym but i seem to have no energy. IAM RUNNING IN CIRCLES. please someone help
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reader, alexia846 +, writes (8 February 2011):
alexia846 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCan anyone tell me why i crave so much attention and why apparently i am chasing it so much
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): I often get depressed and I much older than you. I used to take Prozac and to be honest didnt find they did much or work for what I wanted
You seem young go out with your friends more or join an evening class to absorb yourself I know how hard it is but its not the end of the world-find someone else
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reader, alexia846 +, writes (8 February 2011):
alexia846 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys. I feel so weak, and I feel so consumed by this. I have tried different meds but none have helped. And I feel like I am living in this fantasy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): It sounds like you may be suffering from depression. You can go to your psychiatrist and they will diagnose you and possibly put you on antidepressants.
Also, stop being so harsh on yourself! Boys should not be the only thing that matter to your happiness. And if you really want to attract a guy, you have got to GET OUT THERE! Do you expect a guy to come looking for you? You have to go out and find HIM. Negativity is SO not attractive, so get your confidence up and start going out to places where you can meet guys if you are really looking for love.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (8 February 2011):
 This is definitely depression, you have the classic symptoms so you really need to seek help from a doctor. You say you have a psychiatrist and you are on medication, but if this is not working then go back to them and tell them how you feel. They can change your medication, recommend alternative types of therapy etc to help you.
These website may help you:
http://www.clinical-depression.co.uk/dlp/understanding-depression/understanding-depression/
http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Depression/Pages/Introduction.aspx
http://www.depressionforums.org/forums/
You really do need to speak to your doctor though, explain how you are feeling and that the Prozac is not working and they will be able to help you. There are so many different types of anti-depressants it may take a few tries to get one that suits you.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, eloora +, writes (8 February 2011):
It sounds to me like you are depressed. Life doesn't have to be like this and it doesn't have to be this hard. Arrange to see your doctor or talk to your psychiatrist who can really help you get out of this cycle. You will meet somebody who is available and right for you when the time is right - but as a clearly intelligent girl you know that there is more to life than finding someone to be with. For now you need to focus on learning to love yourself again and the rest will fall into place. Remember that the most important relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself (I think that may be a Sex and the City quote but they do sometimes say some things that make perfect sense!)
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