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writes:I am so angry and frustated about being ignored by someone I genuinly care about. They ignore my calls, ignore my text messages. I sent them an email to tell them how I was feeling which they responded to. They said they would be back in touch soon to organise meeting up but nothing. I have sent a text to ask them if they can make it but nothing again.. I am so cross and I want to just walk away but they have got in my head now... What to do? How to deal with it?? HELP!!
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reader, Arlo +, writes (24 October 2008):
 Hiya,
At the end of the day, it is all too easy to blame ourselves or find fault in what we do when we express or pour out hearfelt feelings and emotions which are not reciprocated. It is a natural reaction. WE feel one way and naturally expect that sentiment to be echoed back at us.
Unfortunately, as the other contributors have mentioned, life isn't quite like that. Everyone is different and we all react differently to different situations.
It is important to value yourself as a person and value what you have to offer to others. We are all special and unique in our own ways and EVERYONE has something to offer to someone else that will be gratefully received and appreciated. It's just the case that we need to get lucky in some respects in finding that type of person in the first place.
If this person cannot see what you have to offer them and cannot appreciate how you feel about them, then the answer is very simple:-
THAT PERSON IS NOT FOR YOU.
Don't agonise or waste energy and emotion over someone that doesn't care for you. Take that positive energy and save it for someone who will appreciate it and accept you for who you are unquestioningly.
Move on and forget about this person. I accept that it is VERY hard to do that, but more often than not, we all have to let go and move on otherwise we get caught in a loop which is hard to break out of and will eventually wear you down.
Good luck and keep us all posted!
Arlo.
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reader, bubblygirl  +, writes (23 October 2008):
Hi,
I completely understand where you are coming from because I am in the same situation right now. Except, this guy Im having trouble talking to has a past with me. Just like you, he decides to randomly ignore me or talk to me when he wishes.
Neither of us needs that, and Im realizing, and I hope you do too, that its better off without them. It will be really hard and it is!!! I know! Im going crazy not being able to have contact but by ignoring you, they obviously dont respect you and you need better than that. Im sorry it has to be that way but they dont care otherwise
Hope that helps!
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