I am simply not used to being with a man who can touch a woman and not want her. We have sex once a week; he says it'd be more often if I complained less!

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

For whatever reason of his, we started having sex once a week. I complain and he says that if I complained less we would have sex more often. I am tormented and depressed. I still talk to him about my unmet needs, it's like a therapy for me, but I don't expect any sex because every time we talk we don't have sex. Although, sex would cure me instantly. The thing is if I look at him as my friend and not as a lover, I can be at peace with my self and him physically in the room. But the moment I think of him as my life partner in every way possible, I start feeling depressed and don't see the future, at least not the happy one, but the future of great sacrifice on my part. We are very close and spend a lot of time together, he is very affectionate but I never get a sexually vibe from him only in bed when he reached a point of no return.

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