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writes:I'm involved with a married man for a year now, he's been clear from day 1, he said his marriage was arranged by his parents, that he never met his wife before engagement and that he's only "obeing" his mom by marrying the woman, he said he never had any sexual attraction toward her, that she was the one who made love to him.. Etc, they are married for 6 years now and have two kids, he says they're separated and he's definitely not gonna spend the rest of his life with someone he doesn't love, that I am the one and he's gonna get divorce the soonest so we live together.. He started changing a few months later so I suspected he's seeing someone else so I looked into his cell phone and found a romantic text message sent to a girl who works with him, I faced him and he denied he was the author, that someone else must have used his phone at work.. We argued, I cried and said: I can't beleive "someone else" just jumped to your phone among all the others "left on the desks"!!! Shame on you lying to me all the time and taking my love and devotion for granted and taking advantage of my naivety.. He said that he has nothing to tell me else than that. I left and I never contacted him again (with the help of God and of my friends), I couldn't stop thinking of him though and was so miserable without him and thought maybe he was right and that I did a mistake by looking into his mobile phone, then, on Valentine's Day, 4 months later, I took the initiative to contact him by wishing him happy VD, he replied that it was already a happy thing that I remember him on such a day.. We got back together but we haven't slept together since, I don't know what's going on, he still tells me the same sweet words but hasn't asked me to sleep with him yet, although I did but he had a comprehensible excuse .. Now am confused, sick of waiting, I asked him whether he still wants to be with me he said of course but he's being enigmatical, silent, distant, and this is so pissing me off! I said do you want me to leave you alone? He said stop saying nonsens! What is he up to?? I'm sick of waiting, I want him, I need him, but am suffering and crying all the time, thinking to let go of him but can't! What do you think? What shall I do?
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reader, YourDestiny11  +, writes (24 March 2010):
 Ok well now u how his wife feels. That is wrong and what comes around goes around. how can u honestly think he wouldnt do to u what hes doing to his wife. My advice is to cut all ties with that loser and stay away from married men. Good luck.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 March 2010):
 If you want to waste your precious life on this planet then go right ahead and keep doing what your are doing. And when you are a lonely old woman sitting by yourself wondering what happened to your life, he'll be snuggling on the couch with his wife looking at pictures of the grandkids.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 March 2010):
 Cut your losses and run.You are like the proverbial frog in the well in love with the moon , reflected on the waters.
He is sitting on the fence and does not want to come down to your side. He will offer excuses and promises to placate you .
If push comes to shove, he will probably get out of your life.
Don't fall in love with a married man . He is nothing but trouble only.
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