A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi. I'm a very shy and reserved 29 year old male. I have always found it extremely difficult to relate to members of the opposite gender, despite having been told I'm good looking. I've longed for the day when I'd have the self confidence to ask someone out but that hasn't quite materialised largely due to my insecurities. I tend to find humour quite difficult to understand and have been described as an introvert and too serious. I do believe I have the maturity to have emotional intimacy with someone and share my innermost thoughts but lack that instant wow factor to cause an impression. There are too many layers to my character; I believe few people would be willing to take the time and effort to know me. From reading classified adds it strikes me that most women tend to favour happy go lucky men with a good sense of humour. Do those of us who are shy, reserved, and quieter stand much of a chance?
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reader, Serinity  +, writes (29 January 2008):
 I think there is someone for everyone. There is nothing wrong with being shy and reserved, you just need to find someone with the same qualities so you are compatible. Most shy, reserved women are not going to post an ad in the classifieds or hang out at bars etc., they're shy and reserved, right? I think you may just be looking in the wrong places. Do you enjoy going to the library or perhaps small cafes? I think you're more likely to find someone who shares similar qualities if you look in the places where you enjoy going or doing things that you like doing. Unless you are already in a committed relationship that requires change, I don't believe in changing who you are to accomodate someone else. Don't give up hon. Your one and only is out there just waiting for you to find her. Good luck and God bless!
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reader, just-ask-xx +, writes (29 January 2008):
 Of course, I actually prefer quieter guys to loud ones, and I understand what you mean about all the layers and that, I'm like that, it's just that people don't take the time to see all of them.
Your chance of dating are as high as any other blokes and don't be anyone else, it never works, not for long =]
Anyways, I probably messed this post up without realising it, but that's just me =] deal with it!!
I hope evrything works out for you and soon too!
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): online dating is ideal for you.
Good luck
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