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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'm so torn...I've been dating this girl for three years, and things are great, except when they're not. For a good part of our relationship, we spent countless hours fighting about stuff that, in my opinion, shouldn't have been issues in the first place. Stuff from her getting upset we weren't having sex every night (I was her first sexual partner) to having problems with me spending too much time with my rock band (which is my dream).The good news is that a majority of the issues at this point have been address and solved, but because of the problems of the past, I feel exhausted with this girl, and I don't know if I want to be in a relationship with her anymore. On top of this, I've been having extremely strong desires to have sex with other women. I haven't been with too many women, and in many respects, I feel like I missed out on a lot of oppourtunites because I dated her for 2 years in college. But I don't know if I want to break up with her because where we are now is a good place, and I don't know if I can. I feel very trapped. Help?
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reader, alien invasion +, writes (4 November 2011):
 This honestly does sound really troubling. My advice is if you really love her and really want to be with her for the rest of your life then don't let her go. It sounds like you really do love her. Though you say you feel trapped...letting her know that will only cause chaos. I would first just say that you might need some time to think or something, letting her know that your life has come to a certain point where you need this..and see how you feel being away from her for a few days or so and maybe you'll end up realizing what you really want.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2011): No offence but you both sound like you need to grow up a bit. If you feel the need to sleep with other women then you would probably b better off breaking up
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2011): If this girl is not supportive of your dream, or if you feel as though you do not love her anymore then you should break up. It is better to break up then to have false feelings for someone because you will only feel bad, and your girlfriend will find out that you are faking her, and it would be worse than it would have been if you break up with her now. If you still have strong feelings for her then tell her about how you feel, and why you are upset. If she is a reasonable person it will turn out well. You could also try having an open relationship. That way you won't have to feel restricted bey her.
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