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writes:I've been in a relationship for a few months. At the beginning, it was very exciting. The last several weeks, it's become mundane. She told her friend that she thinks she may need someone more exciting. And that maybe it'll just take time for me to break her out of her shell. But I feel that she doesn't try nearly enough in the relationship. I do a lot to try to make her feel special. When she's sick, I go out of my way and bring her lots of stuff. I just don't get the sense that she appreciates me nearly as much as I appreciate her. I don't even know if she cares. Sometimes, it feels as if she just likes the way I make her feel good about herself; but she could care less about me. What do I do? Do I bring these feelings up? Do I just ignore them for a while and see what happens? I've been miserable for weeks and it's affecting me in very negative ways. Reply to this Question
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (8 September 2007):
You should look for someone who cares for you as much as you care for them. It's like the old song "Never Make a Pretty Woman your Wife."
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 September 2007):
 You should never ignore the signs of a problem. And, I don't think relationship problems disappear if you just leave them unattended.If you're doing all of the chasing, my advice is that you talk to her and let her know how you feel. Tell her very clearly what you think and wait for her reaction. Don't push her reaction; what you need is to see what she feels for you. If nothing changes, well, move on.A good relationship is the one that makes you glow. If you're feeling miserable, it's no good. See it this way.And, don't let this problems get to you. You're very young and you have lots of time and chances ahead. If you're not being appreciated here, someone else surely will.Take it easy. You don't have to be miserable just because someone fails to appreciate your worth.Keep your cool and be happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): You sound like you are a kind, considerate, young man. You have put this women first, and any women would be lucky to have a caring man like you. If you are unhappy about the situation then you need to talk to your lady to commuicate how you are feeling and how things can be made better.If she dosn't appreicate you, there are many other women who will. Your still so young, that you have the pick of the ladies. You dont want to waste the next 6 years of your live trying to make someone else happy, and recieve very little in return.Talk to her, if she can meet you half way, then you have a positive future together and it will bring you closer.Dont be a doormat, you deserve the best, because you show respect and compassion. Dont settle for second best, raise your standards to someone who will treat you with the same respect and caring.If she is the one for you, then she will listen and be more understanding.God Bless.
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