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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have issues...I am a love at first sight type of person. I have only really like two people and both of which are love at sight. I barely knew them yet I really liked them. Anyhow, none of those really developed into anything, I was just too shy. I really liked the second guy last year, and the strong feeling lasted one whole year. I was like, "I am going to marry him" the very first time I saw him. I found out he got a girlfriend three months ago, and something in me changed after that. Now I am dating multiple guys. One of them is actually great and decent, but then there are all these complications (i.e, age difference, blah blah). But when I was considering the possibility with this new great guy, he wanted out. Okay, don’t BEEP start with me if you don’t want to finish with me. I just don't stand why it is so hard to find someone? I have a lot to offer; I am good looking, very smart, funny, easy going and adventurous. People are always surpised to see that i am still single. I don't want to be single, but I just can't seem to find someone! Now I just think that relationships are something people fool themselves into. I am really cynical about this. Right now I am leading on all the guys I am dating, just so I can break their hearts hard. Guys are so disappointing. I have really tried to like someone but I get nothing in return at all. What I am feeling/doing now is very unhealthy…I know. I need help! I don’t want to live my life like this.
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reader, Loopy14  +, writes (27 May 2009):
 First of all, you ask why it so hard to find someone then later on you tell us your dating numerous guys. Theres your answer, you need to put your bad experience behind you and have faith in the fact that not all guys are the same. Stop your 2,3, or 4 timing now and concentrate on the guy you really like. If none of the guys really appeal to you, do the kind thing and let them all go, sort yourself out, take time out and concentrate on the other aspects of your life. Theres plenty time to find that special person. The last thing you want is to create a bad name for yourself, all the decent guys will run a mile.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): Not to be rude, but how are you going to break hearts when none of them really stick around? Guys are disappointing to you because they keep disappearing on you! Maybe if you start out with better intentions, they won't bail on you so fast. Keep it real and don't be so fearful of getting hurt.
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