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anonymous
writes:Hey. My best friend is in a long-distance relationship with a guy the same age as us (18) and they're totally in love. I don't have a problem with this. Her boyfriend comes to stay with her every few weeks and they're very happy together. The problem is that they're too in love. They're one of those couples who can't bare to be apart from each other. My friend has enough going on with her life to occupy her. She's going to uni next year and has lots of friends, but her boyfriend can't cope being without her. I'd go as far as saying he's obsessed. They're relationship is so intense and not the sort of relationship I'd like to be in at 18. Her boyfriend texts me and emails me every day telling me how much he misses her. He says he lives only for her. I respect that he misses her but it's so annoying! I don't want to ignore his texts but I don't know what to say. I normally manage to cheer him up and bring him back to reality but this is every day. It's been going on for months and drives me mad now! What should I say to him? I want to give him a slap and tell him to get a grip but you can't do that via text. What do I do?
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (1 June 2010):
 Firstly, if you were in love with someone who lived a long way away, would you waste precious time with other people who you can see any time when he came to stay? I don't think so.
At 18, we are adults. There is nothing wrong with having a serious relationship. Playing the field isn't for everyone (certainly not for me.)
I could be wrong, but chances are you're getting annoyed because you're jealous. Do you have a boyfriend?
Let them both be happy because you're being unfair. One day I'm sure you'll understand exactly how they both feel.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 June 2010):
 Okay, your real problem is not their relationship, but her boyfriend clinging to you as well. You don't want to be in this kind of relationship at 18, which is fine. They want it, which is fine too, and I don't think you are really judging their relationship. I think you are feeling that their intense relationship is sucking you in! Her boyfriend sounds just as obsessed texting you as he is texting her. And it bothers you. It would bother me too, I mean you're not his girl. You're not even his friend.
They are in love, let them be. But inform her boyfriend that you are feeling uncomfortable with the texts he constantly sends you about his gf. Say that although you are happy for them you'd rather not have their relationship be in every conversation you have, and to be constantly reminded of it. If he wishes to text you still he can do so, but only if he stops going on about his gf.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (1 June 2010):
Okay, your real problem is not their relationship, but her boyfriend clinging to you as well. You don't want to be in this kind of relationship at 18, which is fine. They want it, which is fine too, and I don't think you are really judging their relationship. I think you are feeling that their intense relationship is sucking you in! Her boyfriend sounds just as obsessed texting you as he is texting her. And it bothers you. It would bother me too, I mean you're not his girl. You're not even his friend.
They are in love, let them be. But inform her boyfriend that you are feeling uncomfortable with the texts he constantly sends you about his gf. Say that although you are happy for them you'd rather not have their relationship be in every conversation you have, and to be constantly reminded of it. If he wishes to text you still he can do so, but only if he stops going on about his gf.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (1 June 2010):
 Leave them alone. You should be ashamed of yourself for thinking that there "too in love" nobody is ever too in love it's just simply love. So get over it build a bridge and experience love for yourself other wise fate will come back and bight you on the ass for pathetically thinkin there "too in love". That's so childish. Grow up!
If you fuck it up, you will regret it for life because YOU distroyed somthing so beautiful. I don't like people that think like you very much. Don't think many people would.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010): that sucks for you. Firstly If you do not already don't reply to his "I miss her so much" ramblings!! Or he will just keep going. Does she know he is this clingy??
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