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*hygirl101
writes:Hi me and my boyfriend have been together almost two years and in the beggining everything was beyond wonderful..like a dream come true.we went on dates every weekend.he surprised me with gifts.and showered me with attention.but the past four months we have been going thru ups and downs..we have problems with jealousy and eachothers opposite sex friends.he has female friends but is jealous of my one male friend. which creates trust issues.we hardly ever go out anymore and im scared to even ask him to take me on a date because hell yell at me and say im using him but im not i just wanna get out of tha house to spice things up a bit.he makes me feel guilty about every thing hes ever done for me now.sweet things he did in the past he throws in my face now.like hell surprise me with a really expensive piece of jewlery without telling me and i have to go get him something in return so he wont get mad..something i can afford. and hell act like he loves it then months later hell bring up how i should of got him something for the same amount of money he spent on me.but im not rich!!!he makes me feel like nothing i do is good enough an it hurts..i recently went to rivedrside to visit family and he told me how much he missed me and loved me but when i came back it was tha opposite..we usally tawk for hours and get in trouble by our parents for not getting off the phone but now we talk 30mins every two days thats crazy for us..he call me for a min say hell call right back then never does..hell text me tha next day to appologize but when i text back he doesnt reply..we usually send pics to eachother when we miss each other and and hell tell me how beautiful i am and how he wants tosee me but this time i get nothing not even a reply..and the picture were sexy!! i feel so neglected by him he pays no attention to me ..he use to be the type to do something sweet out of the blue to let me know hes thinkin of me!! i use to be important...and so many other guys give me the attention i want from himevery day...i find myself looking for attention in other guys ... i kno thats bad but...the other guys dont even matter to me all i can see is him!! i hate it.and when he does give me a little attention im on cloud nine,but it doesnt last long then im feeling terrible agian...he turns me on and off like a light switch i hate being so in love with him..but i cnt help it hes my first love.and what we have is real. im not sure if i should let this relationship go or hold on.because ive put so much in is.i dont wanna start over with someone else..i cant picture my life without him..i have never felt like this.guys do you have any advice for me??
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reader, petina1  +, writes (3 September 2010):
 It all sounds like one sided on your part which isn't good. He needs a good shake up. He has gone stale and uninterested. If you can't get him to put some spark in the relationship you will lose everything you've had. Don't waste your energies on this type of relationship if that is so. Is there a reason how things have changed, a different job? Money worries? Health? Other factors in peoples lives can change a relationship and some people can't open up their true problems about this. You need to see him just to talk and get everything out in the open to see what you have and where you both want to go from here. Hope this helps
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