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writes:Right i'm in the most awful, emotionally-depressive situation.Now as you're reading this you'll think that by my first sentence i'm over-exaggerating! But trust me, if you are or have been in a similar experience to this then you'll hopefully understand me...though, to my knowledge i don't think many actually will!I've fallen head-over-heals for a teacher at my school - Yes! A forbidden relationship which probably, could never happen! I know he's married [to a fat cow] and as far as i know has 'no' children...Anyways, i've been agonising this for about 4 months and cannot accept that i can't be with him! It's become a MAJOR OBSESSION - i think he may have a tiny suspicion about this since i always stare and smile! I'm in year 10 and school hols are arriving. I don't think i can cope with not seeing him for that length of time, i long for him so much at weekends AND thATS ONLY TWO DAYS! I've always hated school, but since this thing unexpectedly took over me - I've LOVED school cos i get many opportunities to see him :D He's gonna be our new 'year leader' next year...so i'll be seeing even more of him! But at the minute i'm in tears, it's gotten so bad, i can't even sleep at night as i'm too busy fantasising about him being next to me...in bed! He's crushing my life and doesn't even know it. How can i take my mind off him thru these next 6 weeks? If i don't find a way i'll end up isolating myself and well...get depressed i suppose! It helps me being at school, despite the pain cause at least i can be near to him. I do know where he lives, but that comfort actually doesn't help me at all. I know you lot will be tellin me to get over him, but that cannot possible happen - even though it probably would be for the best! I wanna take my mind off him, any advice? I actually bought this book aswel, called 'Love Lessons' About a girl who falls for her art teacher, i'm almost a quarter of the way thru it and am really into it because of the relation it has to my problem! She's bound to get heartbroken in the end - in fact i know she does cause i read the last page :S which is puttin me off reading it...So yeah, thats really gonna cheer me up! Help me please, i can't bare this!!!Note from moderater: Do not use textspeak in your questions or answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): i know how you feel, it suddenly becomes an obsession. all over christmas i wanted to be with the guy i like who is 37 years older than me and is also my teacher. his wife recently died and he flirts with me a lot and i think it may be cos he is lonley. he has no kids but he has a bro 10 yrs younger who is a firefighter (sounds hot lol!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007): Teacher + pupil = never works , because ive done it i am 16 the female teacher was 22, we secretly went out had sex bal bla etc..
it gets boring, its nothing like it seems so get over it and move on
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reader, Amy2007x +, writes (23 September 2007):
 Hello, i know exactly how u feel =[ Im in love with my teacher to everyone else he aint hot but to me he is stunning!
I wanna kiss him so badly that it hurts lol
and yeah throughout the full of my summer holidays he was all i thought about and now its the stupid september weekend right now and im totally missing him =[ it sucks!
I got two more days to go til i see him again and i cannot wait lol
mail me and we could chat about this
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reader, DIE-romantic. +, writes (19 July 2007):
 You know, im having to go through exactly the same thing here, snap! I know EXACTLY how you feel as well, because its sending me through a deep depression too, and other people dont realise how it can affect different, different ways, people say its a crush, how do they know?
I dont know how im going to get through the 6 weeks either, and im in year 10 too! The teacher i like, isnt married i dont think anyway, well he had a ring but then i noticed he didnt have it on a few days ago, but he does a have son, which i have met, so its extremely awkward. I wish i had never attended that school at first, then i met him, and it was the best thing that happened to me, although i often wish, if i had never met him, i wouldnt be so depressed or heartbroken most of the time, it probably is a good idea to forget about them, but everytime i try, its hopeless, hes contantly on my mind as well. So yeah i do know what its like and its every second of every minute of every hour of every day. Constantly. I dont know what advise to give you, because im going through the same, but you could message me anytime and we can talk and try and get each other through the 6 weeks together?
I wish i could be more helpful with the advise.
Do message me please. :) xxxxxxx
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reader, Mystic Moo +, writes (17 July 2007):
 I understand how you feel. I have been in love with my teacher for about a year and a half and it's ruining my life aswell. :(
I coped last summer knowing that he was going to be my teacher the next year although I spent a lot of time fantasising about him wishing he was with me and so on. I can also relate to the whole thing about suffering at the weekend.
I don't know what advice to give you because only you know how you're feeling and the law or the fact that he is married can't change how people feel. But making plans for the summer is a good idea because you will think less about your situation and not feel so upset about him not being there (Hopefully).
Good luck for the summer holidays.
Mysticmoo xxxxxx
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (17 July 2007):
 Maybe rather then reposting the same thing you should reread the past posts :D
It does feel like the end of the world hunni and a lot of advice can feel hard to take in. The saying "the truth hurts" is so true. Keep rereading the advice people give you and maybe that will help it sink in. We don't say things here to be mean or lie to you or anything.
Maybe contacting another teen who has a crush on a teacher who has posted on this site might help??
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question'eyeswideopen' i'm sorry! I know i've been repeatedly adding posts about the same person, i do appreciate all advice i get just that...I find it hard to take it in. I am going to try and make this the last post, cos people are probs thinking the same as you - i quite admire you for writing dat actually and it made me realise how selfish i am...I fink it's just that i need some way of expressing ALL my feelings - my friends don't really understand me, you see and well...i just love this site basically. I post every single thing tht happens relating to him! I know i shudn't...it's an addiction i guess! But like i sed i'll provide the odd update and keep it to a minimum!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 You've posted this on this forum over and over again. You've gotten excellent advice each time. I don't understand what purpose it serves since you never like the advice you get. You get told it's a crush, you deny it and say it's true love. You are told how illegal it is and how a teacher can lose their jobs and you ignore it. You get told to get some counseling and you refuse. You have heard from many others who have had schoolgirl crushes but yet you are sure yours is a unique situation. I mean what's the point?
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (17 July 2007):
I have been there hunni. I pined over a teacher for about 2 years and it sucks. I knew that nothing could happen as he was my teacher and it's against the law. Plus he had a very nice, friendly girlfriend who had his baby aswell.
There isn't much you can do during the holidays but try and forget him and have fun with your friends. As you say it is forbidden and he IS married. It's harsh but all you can really do is hope your feelings for him pass soon.
You say you cant possibly get over him but trust in someone who has been there- YOU WILL! All it takes is time and not driving yourself insane. Make lots of plans to hang with friends during the holidays. Maybe if you have a "close" mate you could share how you are feeling so they can help?
I thought I was the only person on the planet in love with a teacher when I went through it. But since leaving school and catching up with old mates again I have found out there were at least 5 of us in my year going through the same thing. And I have spoken to the teacher since and we had a laugh about it.
As much as the book means a broken heart maybe it's best you read it any way. A lot of things in life are hard and suck. And my heart goes out to you hunni.
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