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writes:I'm so mad right now i really need some advice!Yesterday i went to my friend's house to watch a movie and talk. Before, I called my bf to let him know where i was going and that i wasn't going to be home, so he should call me on the cell phone later.He sounded wierd on the phone, but he said it was nothing.Well, he didn't call me yesterday, and today, when he did, i was in a meeting with my boss and a new client, so I couldn't pick up. About 6 minutes after he called, i got out of the meeting and called him back. To my surprise, he didn't answer!I sent him an e-mail... i thought that didn't notice his cell phone ringing, or something, but he answered saying that because i didn't pick up the phone when he called, he is not going to answer my calls!It's not the first time he's done that... i just don't know what i have done to make him do this! was is because i went to my friend's house? was it really because i didn't pick up the phone? I don't know!I know he will call me later and he won't tell me what was wrong... I just wish i knew! And it makes me so angry every time he does that, that i think about breaking up...We've talked about it, he's promissed a thousand times he wasn't going to that anymore, but he never keeps his promisse...Lately, things were going pretty well between us, but now I just don't know!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI guess you guys are right...
That's not the only situation he's proved to be really childish...
I'm too soft with him!! time to move on...
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thank you all, you've helped a lot!!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 January 2010):
 How childish is he? Wow. He seems like a petty control freak.
Why does he keep doing it you ask?
Because, YOU let him :) Sometimes life is simple.
Move on before he decides to run your life for you.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (8 January 2010):
 I wasnt gonna answer this post because i didnt really have any advice on the situation besides dump the jerk but it seems something reaks oh its tainted advice.
its wrong to generalize and say this bf is acting like a 13 yr old, any body can act like this at any age, secondly its not illegal to date a 13 yr old and as for being wrong thats an opinion, it seems some one has man issues besides the poster here,
I agree with cgrlygo this guy is trying to assert control i guess he figures if you dont answer his calls why should he answer yours i dont kno but its ridiculous, hes not ready for a relation ship i say dump him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): hes a controll freak... and hes training you... and your doing it. step back and look at the situation...
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (8 January 2010):
Well the first thing you need to do is stop dating 13 year old boys. It's illegal and wrong.
Oh wait... he's not 13? He's just acting like one?
What you need to do is tell him that throwing a little tantrum like this and storming off and slamming his bedroom door may well have worked on his mum, but it's not going to on you.
If he can't communicate with you like an adult then he doesn't get to date you.
Being all moody and refusing to tell you why is CLASSIC. It means that you now sit and worry about it and when you see him you apologise for everything you've done in the last week (I bet you forgot to put the cups in the sink or didn't wear that top he bought you or some other CRIME), and then he lectures you about all of it and you are very sorry and he gets to be a dick and you get to be super nice to him to make him like you again.
You've forgiven him for this before so now he knows he can keep doing it because it works and you'll keep taking him back.
Dump him. I had a boyfriend or 2 like this and I learned the hard way to just laugh at them and tell them to get stuffed VERY early on. It's not worth your mental health to spend time trying to get him to change.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 January 2010):
A man who breaks his promises over and over again isn't a man. He's promised a thousand times this wouldn't happen, and every time he's broken that promise. Don't waste time on someone you can't count on.
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