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writes: I'm hurting really bad. My days are consumed with thoughts. I need to know I will forget him and I will have a normal life. I cannot give details for I fear someone I know will read this. I cannot discuss this with anyone. I can hold out and live through this pain if someone can just tell me that I won't feel like this forever. Please, will someone just tell me the heartbreak will go away? Reply to this Question
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reader, Jinny +, writes (19 September 2006):
 A break up is like a bereavement.
The relationship has died.
It is normal to feel the way you do. You have lost a friend and lover.
It would be best if you could talk out all your feelings but you say you can't.
Try starting to write a daily diary . When you feel overwhelmed, write down how you feel. Try writing a poem. (It doesn't have to ryhme!)
This way you can unburden those awful "black,hopeless" moments and you will find, as the days go by you resort to your diary less and less as the healing progresses.
At the same time, think not that you are trapped in sadness but you are now free to start a new life. Adventures may be just round the corner when you least expect them. Try to go somewhere new,do something unusual that you have never done before.
Start to blossom again after this winter of despair.
Take care of yourself, You are special.
Good luck
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reader, sjd +, writes (19 September 2006):
 I know it hurts really bad right now and I am sorry for your pain. Depending on how long you were with this person and how strong your feelings were is a factor in how long it will take you to stop hurting. It may take a while. You will always remember and only time will make it better. The best way fro you to stop hurting more quickly is to take down reminders of the person. Put away memories. Don't talk to them if at all possible. Then go out with your friends or do something that will occupy your time. Read a book....not a sad book! Go out, exercise, do things you enjoy. It is really hard at first but the more stuff you can find o do the less you will think about the person. Time will help. Don't give up...you will get better no matter how much it seems you won't!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2006): its going to take awhile but hold on to your instinqe it may take a long time but things happen for a reason.If god brings you to the light he will help you through it. Its not meant to be and theres plenty of men out there move on and you shall find the right one for you
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reader, Toria +, writes (19 September 2006):
 We all feel hurt, heartbroken, let down you name it at some point in our lives, some of us feel it more than once, in alot of cases the heartbreak will go away and you will move on from it and meet someone else, sometimes you never forget that person but even though you don't forget them or the hurt you felt it will get less and possibly only when you think of that person you will feel a slight tingle of hurt simply for what you had and lost, in any case you will move on meet someone else and realise that, that person that hurt you wasn't the one for you and find yourself happier with your new relationship.
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