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writes:Hi, I was wondering whether I could have some advice?I would really like to spice things up with my boyfriend.. as over the yeas, our sexlife has become pretty bland.I was wondering if there were little things I could do to help attract him to me in THAT kind of way? Do guys actually ENJOY giving a woman oral sex, or do they just do this for the woman? It's something that I love, but I want it to be a pleasurable experience for him as well. I get brazilian waxes and I'm extremely hygenic and keep fit.. I have a healthy body image.. I feel good about myself.. but I don't feel as if my boyfriend is magnetised to me.. he's more likely to roll over and go to sleep, or just want to cuddle me. I would really like to please him as well. Other than the lack of sexual intimacy, we have an otherwise wonderful relationship.. but the sex side has just stagnated over the years.Any ideas and opinions would be welcome. Thanks for reading :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2010): the guy reader who replied has raised some good points about asking your boyfriend what he likes. After all you swap body fluids with this guy surely you can manage to SPEAK to him too? I note that you are body-confident, now i raise this issue because i'm in a similar dilemma with my own boyfriend - but it is reversed. Have you considered that your boyfriend is NOT body confident and may be embarrassed or intimidated by the fact you are. Perhaps you should consider that he is a human being and may have certain hang-ups about his own body?? Just an idea....
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reader, Kenneth  +, writes (22 April 2010):
Sorry to say he is probably not attacted to you sexually anymore or just bored with sex part. It happens. It has nothing to do with you.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (22 April 2010):
 I for one, love giving and receiving oral. It seems that some guys like it and others don't. What you need do do is find out what your boyfriend likes. I know, (Captain Obvious) but have you actually asked him? Maybe he isn't the guy that likes to talk about sex aloud. Try email, or even texting. Ask him what he likes, and then let him know what you like. Unless you tell him there is a problem, he won't know to fix it. Try sexy clothes, a bath together, or how about spontininity? Catch him coming out the shower and let him have it. I know you know what to do, but you need to get him on board.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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