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*weetheart1nonly
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and we really love eachother. We've been living together and cause fight most of the time over silly things. Infact the phone is the cause of everything. Each time a guy calls me whether just a friend to say hi or something important,he starts fighting. I've been in a relationship but he is my first love because he took my virginity.We keep fighting and making up immediately, I admit I've hit him though because of his fault and when we make up and maybe something happens again, he brings up all the negatives Ive done and not the positive. I admit my mistake but I learnt and grew from it. The problem is even if I want to leave the house to give hima long break he begs me not to go and I cant even go at least not now because my exams start soon and I dont really have anywhere to stay. This is my problem. the latest happened again when I was sleeping then woke and saw my phone blinking and I checked it and it was a guy that I told him about that was disturbing me but he used it against me and till now,so I stayed back. The next day i took a taxi to school and that was what got him mad that he has been taking me before so I threw it to his face that I can do on my own. That I have killed the relationship infact he says we are friends, he would still be taking me to school but no relationship no more feelings. I swallowed my pride and begged him like a fool but the next day I decided to move on. He still plays and talks to me and I do the samebut no love. I would move out to my brother's place in 2 wks as school closes. For now how do I concentrate when my exams come up soon, I am deeply sad, my heart is in pieces. I love him. If it was something I do, then I wouldnt feel bad, the fact Is Ive never cheated on him and have been faithful but he still doesnt believe it. Please HELP me, I am dying slowly. I am so sad, I am failing, my finals are at the corner yet I cant focus until we settle, What do i do Please help me.
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reader, sweetheart1nonly +, writes (1 May 2008):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPlease people I need more answers.
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reader, sweetheart1nonly +, writes (29 April 2008):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot I forgot to add that we still being friends is only sarcastic not the real friendship like mutual aggreement to break up, false accusation and so on. For example we were watching maury show and he started acting like maury, that did u cheat on your exboyfriend, boyfriend no the lie detector says yes and so on. That's why It's hurting me a lot
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reader, Susan Strict  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 You work through it and you concentrate on your exams. I know it's easier to say than it is to do, but you can do it. You focus on yourself, and know that everything will be so much better when your exams are finished and you've done well in them. If he is still your friend then that's absolutely wonderful partly because real friends are forever (and much rarer than "relationships") and partly because if you are friends there is always the chance that something more may come of it in the future.
I wrote a lot more, but I just deleted it again. Too emotional. I'll summarise: much worse things happened a few years ago to people very close to me just before major exams. They worked through them, and they are better and stronger because they managed to do it when they were in emotional turmoil - and not just because of their exam results. The exams were a point of focus, and you need something separate from your problems when those problems feel as though they are at their worst.
Good luck in the exams. I'm sure you have the strength to do it.
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