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writes: My new husband (under two weeks) is having trouble adjusting to the fact that we are married. I am trying my best to be gentle and understanding, patient and kind, but sometimes he can become a bit abusive. He always apologises, and I do believe him that it will calm down. I know his family well, and understand where he is coming from and there is no history of physical abuse. I know in my heart that he loves me very much, but what bothers me is last night, in his sleep (he talks in his sleep) he tells me that he hates me, while holding me tight.Is it normal for men to have such a hard time adjusting to married life? Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 But you haven't even been married two weeks yet! This is very bizarre and your marriage sounds very very shaky. Do you think he may need to get checked out mentally?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): Original Poster: Well, he's sooo happy and loving, and then he has his black moods, where he "doesn't know" and talks of divorce and leaving. I say that divorce is off the table, and that this is a phase that we will get through, and he is all loving again, talks of babies, etc. He's 8 years younger than I am, and he admittedly is immature and narcisstic, but he wanted this marriage very much (or so I thought). He's struggling with himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): . Your guy is quite old so he souldn't feel unsettled. He sounds a bit werid to me!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 April 2008):
Are you sure he was talking in his sleep? Are you sure it was you he said he hated? This doen't sound normal for a guy who has been married less than 2 weeks. What was he like before you got married? Did he seem happy about marrying you? You guys should be in the honeymoon phase where you can't get enough of each other. Very confusing.
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