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writes:My boyfriend satisfies me very much in bed but for some stupid reason, I want a one night stand. But, I don't even have anyone in mind! I've only ever slept with my boyfriend and it makes me feel so bad that I think about this! Then, I think I want my bf to spank me or something for thinking like this and I feel way weirder. Ugh! Where are these thoughts coming from? How do I get rid of them? I am not a cheater, I would not have a one night stand but it bothers me to have that thought in my head. Help? Please?
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (11 September 2010):
 perhaps you and your boyfriend can do something kinky, go to a party, pretend you don't know each other and pretend to have a one night stand, sounds crazy and silly but if you really role play this it might get it out of your system
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (11 September 2010):
 Listen I've had my fair share of one-nighters with a fire fighter, DJ, engineer, the list goes on. All they are is just one night sex, which can be good or bad. The only one I enjoyed was the fire fighter, go figure, the rest not so much. One nighters are more concerned about finishing than pleasing you. It's just another notch on the bed post and another reason to make an appointment to the gyno to check for any STDS. Please avoid them, stay with your boyfriend and have frequent sex with one person you enjoy. You can always ask him if you can try new things in the sack, I enjoy my bottom being spanked so you're not alone in that one!
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reader, LOSTasYOU +, writes (11 September 2010):
 To start off, its pretty normal to have sexual thoughts or desires of being with someone else, especially if he's the only person you've ever been with. Maybe your boyfriend does satisfy you but maybe you still need that extra spark, something adventurous.thats probably why your thinking of having a one night stand bcause its something different, spontaneous, adventurous for you. Theres nothing wrong with being with only one person, in fact its something amazing. You just gotta have fun with eachother. Do things differently because once you get use to it, it starts to get boring, then comes desiring someone else, then sometimes it can lead to doing something wrong. So what im trying to say is think about some of the new interesting things you can do with your boyfriend to keep it fresh and enjoyable. Hope this helps!!!
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reader, monkeyjump +, writes (11 September 2010):
if you feel bad for just thinking about cheating, you will feel way worse if you actually do it. I recently kissed a girl (which is still technically cheating) and I am racked with guilt about it, and terrified to tell my GF. and that was just a kiss, and a little heavy petting. If you don't like your BF or you like him but don't think your relationship has long term possibilities then break up with him and have sex guilt free with whom-ever you like. But if you love him and want to keep him and dont want to feel bad about your-self then don't cheat.
also think about you reputation in general. if you get caught everyone will know and you will feel like dirt, and you next bf wont trust you.
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