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writes:I'm a 15 year old guy and I'm gay. I've always known that so that isn't the issue. I've been having REALLY strong feelings for another guy, but he's straight. I don't know if it's love (I doubt it) but they're strong enough feelings to make me really want to be part of his life. We're friends, but I'd like to be more to him... is there anything I can do to get him to think of me? Besides just flirting or the usual advice "be your self", cause I do all that and he seems to show some interest, but I want him to know how I feel... so, any advice?
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reader, Adrenna_Lynn +, writes (27 May 2010):
 well, it cant hurt if you TOLD him how you felt, it may make him feel uncomfortable but at least he will know. and just because he is straight doesnt mean he doesnt have feelings for you. there truely is no "straight" human being out there. everyone has looked at somone that was the same sex and thought WOW. and if you are reading this thinking "what a retard she has NO idea what she is talking about" well guys, if you watch porn, dont EVEN tell me you have NEVER got curious and watched a ll peice of some guy-on-guy...anyways....even if it doesnt work out WHO CARES! You are gay! Be proud! At least you arent soe boring "normal" guy walking around checking out every chick you glance at! Your special. Dont you ever forget that!
Best wishes :)
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reader, straight to the truth  +, writes (25 May 2010):
he is straight, dont do it. you cant turn someone gay.
I am sure if you had a friend who was female and she started to try and hit on you and turn you straight you wouldn't want to know her anymore or you would tell her to simply back off.
boys of your age are a bit more sensitive to the whole gay thing too so he is more likely to have a go at you and not speak to you anymore.
just remain friends and leave it that way.
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reader, cnith +, writes (25 May 2010):
 Lots of gay men LOVE straight men... lots of girls LOVE gay men... it's a curse, I admit to being of the latter nature.
But as much as I love being a fag hag and flirting and being innuendo-city with my gay men friends, I know nothing else will come of it. Ever.
Save yourself the heartache hun. Find someone on your team.
As a girl, I thought I'd never find a straight man close to a gay man...but you know what? I did. My bf isn't a gay man, obviously, but he's fun. Sure, he still has some of the same hiccups that make straight men boring and kind of idiotic, but he's closer to a gay man than I thought was possible. By this I mean he's fun and has things that I thought only gay men possessed in terms of personality.
That being said, there are some great gay men who you SWORE were straights out there. Believe me, I have a ton of gay men friends. You'll find your cutie. Leave this one alone.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 May 2010):
 He is technically unavailable to you because he is straight. You approaching him knowing this is just kind of selfish. You're just going to make him feel uncomfortable to be around you.
Picture this: a really good girl friend has fallen in love with you. She wants to be with you. She tells you her feelings are so strong that she just wants you to know how she feels.
So, how does that go? Do you want to spend any more time with her? Are you happy to hang out with her? What do you say to her?
Does this sound like a good idea? I don't think so.
He knows you're gay, you could make an offhand comment, like if he ever decides to sub in for your team, you'd be happy to have him on the team. Then let it go.
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reader, swordandredrose +, writes (25 May 2010):
Even if you tell him that you like him, he wouldn't have any feelings for you because he is straight. So I think you shouldn't tell him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2010): "is there anything I can do to get him to think of me?" - You cannot if he's straight. I don't know what to say because if my friend told me that she's interests in me. I'll be surprise and a little weird out. It'll be awkward as well since we're friends and she's a lesbian. Now this doesn't mean I'll stop being friends with her because she's a lesbian. It means I'll have to tell her that I'm straight and I don't have any interests in girls. I know I'll still be her friend, that's for sure. Guys might take this a little different than girls.
You can let him know, but I won't know how he'll take this. He may 1) freak out and ignore you or 2) freak out and tell you that he's not interests in you. He may even end the friendship if he knows that you have interests in him. I'm ONLY GUESSING, so it's best to get advice from those who experience this. Sorry, can't help you much. :x
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (25 May 2010):
 I'd like to try to help you, but honestly, I am completely unqualified to dispense advice on gay relationships, being a life long heterosexual. What I will offer you is: if you already know he's straight, are you sure it'd be a good idea to put yourself out there? Isn't it possible that he may not appreciate your disclosure? Discretion IS the better part of valor, so maybe admiration from afar is the better idea here? Just a thought, whatever you decide please be safe, sane and considerate!
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