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I am feeling pressured, but I have the right to choose who to keep in my life, right?

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Question - (25 February 2011) 3 Answers - (Newest, 26 February 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I've come to the time now where I can't be bothered with some people. I just think some people haven't grown up. People lie, spread rumors, insult you, judge you ect.... I've dumped some people out of my life because of what they are like. I know some people make mistakes and I accept them for that and their apology's. But I dump the ones who I feel are just doing it all the time and are a total waist of my time. who wants to deal with someone who lies,spreads rumors,insults you and also wants to remain "friends".

You probably can't find anything to relate to these people so you don't find them useful. What's wrong with changing and wanting positive people around. I say this to my mother and she says I'm ignorant and only think of myself. This boy asked me out years ago, I didn't like him (Only as a friend). She started accusing me because I let him down and called me selfish. She pressured me and I went out with him I felt really uncomfortable because I didn't like him and had to dump him. I've just released now that it is really up to me who I want to be in a relationship with. It is all about me, who I let in my life and who I can throw away without caring.

I have lots of lovely friends who i'd wish to keep all my life. I've had a few who pressured me to drink. I don't like alcohol iv'e tried it because I wanted to but I don't let others tell me what to do. peer pressure is hard though. I see that going on alot with young teens around 13 - 14 (I'm 17 btw) I have a young friend who is 13, she's feeling all of this and I'm trying to give advise from my past experience to her.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (26 February 2011):

Honeypie agony auntYes, thinking about and for yourself is vital, no matter your age. And not wanting to waste time on ignorant, immature people is a good choice.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (25 February 2011):

You're more mature an intelligent than your mother - she seems to be a bit clueless when it comes to men and relationships. Select only those people who are worthy of your time and friendship (and love when it comes to a man). Don't listen to your mother on this one. She's out of order.

Also, remember you don't have to answer to your mother when it comes to relationships with others. Don't try to explain these things to her. Instead, just say it's your life and you'll do as you please. Then just leave the room.

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A female reader, raiders United States +, writes (25 February 2011):

raiders agony auntVery mature thinking for a 17 year old. You have the right to select your friends and your boyfriends, the only thing you have no selection is in family. Be selective choose your friends right, be happy and comfortable with you choice to share your time with.

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