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writes:I am a christian and have been talking with someone for 2 years. He wants to have a good time for instance driving out to the country and stay for a night at a resort. I really dont want to do that. Should i give up on him and try to find someone else. Also he was married and divorce two times but he hasnt shown me his affidavit. I believe him but i dont know if it is wise to keep him as my boyfriend. Sometimes I feel very lonely and need companionship. Please help me.
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reader, busy04  +, writes (19 September 2009):
 I have 3 things to point out...
#1- If you don't want to go to a resort, because of your religion/beliefs or whatever else & you feel that some "things" can happen, then just be honest with him and tell him that. You don't have to go if you don't want. That is a choice,not a reason to break up.
#2- He was married & divorced twice, and you haven't seen the papers: ask him to show them to you. That's not a hard thing to do either, let him know that you do believe him but you just want extra assurance that he has no legal ties to another woman. If he refuses, then I say he's hiding something and you need reconsider being with him.
#3- If you feel lonely, let him know that! Men cannot read our minds. Sometimes we have to voice how we feel, if you need to feel close to him, then just like Confuzzled012 said below: come up some solutions of how that can change.
It seems as if you have a problem with really communicating with your partner. And a relationship is based on communication among other things. If you've been together for 2 years then you should feel most comfortable voicing your concerns to him. Also trust, if you really are doubting this guy & your trust is wavering, then let him go, put yourself at ease.
Talk to him.
Best wishes!
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (18 September 2009):
 I think you should break up with him. You are lonely and want attention and you are having doubts about his honestly.
Unless you really love him then talk to him instead and tell him how you feel. Hopefully that will solve things.
But move on if you are unhappy.
Good Luck~
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reader, Confuzzled012 +, writes (18 September 2009):
 Are you asking if you should break up with him because he wants to go to a resort and you don't? I'm sorry ma'am but that's a little rediculous.
If you feel lonley then talk to him and come up with a solution of how he can make you feel more loved. If he doesn't know it's a problem and/or doesn't know how to fix it, then he can't do anything. You have to talk to him.
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