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*izzie0612
writes:Is it normal for me to just be constantly hard around my fiance. we been dating for 4 years...and we lost our virginity to each other. She is very very beautiful and when i was younger, im 19 now i dont remember being so hard around her, ever since 17 every time im cuddling with her, holder her,even talking on the phone with her..i get really hard.There are times where we had sex constantly..for i do have a high sex drive and was just really good at turning her on. Now days,we dont have much sex and she finds it annoying that im constantly getting hard around her. I tell her i cant help it and its not my fault.She wont let me touch her or nothing..because she thinks im trying to be sexual when im not.most of the time i really do just want to hold her, and just kiss on her with no sexual attention. but she gets fussy if i even attempt to hold her too tight and kiss on her or what ever.I have no problems lowering my need for sex with her..but when im constantly hard around her i just cant help it at times. she thinks im a sex addict when im not.So i just wanna know is my reaction to her presence normal??
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reader, Tizzie0612 +, writes (29 April 2011):
Tizzie0612 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all, and well i havent been trying to have sex with her thats the thing. It's like my body just wired it self to get hard when im around her or hear her voice lol. but lately i have i ve talked to her and she just seems moody. she said she doesnt know what it is and that she is use to me being this way by now.she smiled when she said that so i guess its reassuring.
Our relationship isnt always on sex and even when im hard at times i dont always want it. For now i told her we ll do a lot more talking when we together and i ll just hold her and comfort her. sex isnt everything and if i had to i ll give it up for a long while if she wanted me to despite my high drive. She is not pregnant and doesnt seem to be having a family problems either. I usually help out when it comes to taking care of her nana so she can do more of her school work and not feel so stressed out.
again thanks for the advice and we ll see where this goes. Hopefully things will be back to normal in no time :)
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reader, Joma J  +, writes (28 April 2011):
I think there are times where you should be ehh.."soft"..you know what i mean? Sometimes its just impolite. Like when you're going out for social events, or social gatherings, do you get hard on her? That's pretty embarrasing :)
You can go "hard" during your private moments :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): Just tell her you just want to cuddle/hug and kiss, without it leading anywhere. Then when you DO cuddle without it leading to sex she'l trust you more!
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reader, Smileypants +, writes (28 April 2011):
 No, you're a young man who's naturally horny, plus in love, and she's beautiful. You two should be humping a lot!! Lol
Um, what kind of relationship do you two have otherwise?? Seems like, for a woman this young, there might be an emotional disconnect going on...and if that's so, sex usually goes with it. Try courting her again, be sweet, touch her in non-sexual ways. Like holding hands, or giving a massage.Hopefully, things like that will help you two...good luck :o)
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (28 April 2011):
 she should be happy there are still men with working d*cks like urs!! And the fact u got a high sex drive while u are still respectful!
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