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writes:hey I am a strong christian and I really want to wait till I'm married to have sex. has anybody else done this? alot of people think that i am wasting my teenage life by living to this rule. im not have doubts about it, i really want to but id like to know if other people have and what there storys are. write back x x x x
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reader, dannabo  +, writes (12 February 2009):
 I and my girlfriend both age 20 waited until out wedding night to have sex. It was the most amazing experience ever.
It was a very spiritual loving thing you could imagine. It was a billion times more than masturbation. By all means wait.
You will not be bad in bed due to inexperience. But you will greatly enjoy discovering one another together. We have een married for 41 years now and still have incredible sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your replies, i know that i am probably going to have the "worst sex ever" on my wedding night but i think it will be worth it in the end and at least i know il be marrying a guy who respects me. if anybody else is going through this and wants to talk about it id love to hear. im 'kt' on here thanks again x x
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reader, Keria +, writes (27 April 2007):
Don't listen to anybody who teases you. You do what you want to do. However, it's true, you might regret it after you've been married five years... but then again, there's no point giving yourself that much guilt by going against the scriptures you believe in. If you ever do change your mind, make sure you can accept it with you head way before you do it. You first have to have a change of mind as to whether it is right or wrong. You will have to believe it really is ok. If you have hesitations, then the pleasure you will have will only last a moment, and the guilt will flood in, and you'll have a really hard time dealing with it.
But I will say, regardless of what any church teaches, mastrubation is definitely NOT wrong. It's a good alternative to sex when you are not yet ready for it, and will make you a better sex partner once you ARE married. You should make sure you do it regularly. Don't feel guilty afterward, because it's fine, natural, and healthy. I would say it is UNHEALTHY to NOT mastrubate.
Hope this helps! and Keep your Convictions!
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reader, candyk +, writes (27 April 2007):
You are definatley not wasting your teenage life. Its a pretty commendable acheivement these days :o) My sister has done the same thing. She is 23 and a chritian and is about to get married this june. She seems to have coped pretty well, her and her fiancee keep busy and dont put themselves in situations where they may be tempted to take things too far. Visiting friends doing other activities like bowling, cinema, dining out etc. When her fiancee stays the night they sleep in different beds or bedrooms. He respects her decision very much and when you find that special person he should too.
Be proud of who you are and the choices you make
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reader, rk06 +, writes (27 April 2007):
 I planned on doing the same thing. Its really hard to find a virgin... just to forewarn you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007): No you're NOT wasting your teenage life by being celibate. This is a personal choice. NO ONE should dictate your choices, especially when it comes to sex.
Mind you, personally, if my friend came to me and asked me what I think of her holding back until after marriage, I might be hard to not grin/smirk at her. I've heard people keeping themselves until after marriage and having the WORST sexual experiences EVER known to humankind. Poor fools. Then again, sex might not be that important to you anyway. However, sex is such a wonderful thing if you do it 'right'.
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reader, FLint8383 +, writes (27 April 2007):
Hey naww dont listen to them your not wastin ur teenage life im a christian too. Just if it bugs you alot find ohter stuff to do, really when u actually save up ur virginity for that 1 person itll be worth the wait, liek would u like your partner to tell u he or she has had sex with 5 other guys, it doesnt make u feel that special does it? so ya just really try you can do it. dont listen to them. b glad to message me if u need help. ~B~
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