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writes:I am a fake person online. I fell in love with an Airforce man. I don't know how to tell him, cause I know he won't love me, after he sees the real me. I am trying my best to figure out a way to tell him, I don't know how and I don't want him to leave. help, please. I've lied about my age, and looks, and sports I play, and my parents jobs..
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (28 May 2013):
Dear OP,
This can only end in disappointment, so please be honest sooner than later. If he likes your online persona, he'll want to meet you in the end, and what do you say to him then? A lie is a bad way to start a relationship, so I don't believe there's a way to save this.
Don't let more time pass and don't give into this fantasy of having a relationship with him any longer. You did something stupid, but you can make a difference if you're honest and say that you're sorry. Do it today. It won't get easier if you wait any longer, it will only hurt him more after he finds out the truth.
After that, you have a clean slate and you can start real dating :). I wish you the best, but please stop lying in the future. I am sure you're a lovely girl and you'll find someone who'll like you the way you are.
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reader, misLadYd..  +, writes (28 May 2013):
 this is so simple..write him an email/inbox him...tell him the truth then wait for his response...take it from there
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2013): Hi, if you really interested in him, set up your true profile and get to know him, if he flirts with your false persona and the real you, he spells trouble, delete the profile and forget him.
Either way you will know where you stand.
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (27 May 2013):
 The good news is that what you're feeling isn't real love. It's an infatuation, an obsession, whatever you like to call it. You don't know him, you are in love with a fantasy. It doesn't make it hurt any less if/when things end, but the pain will fade more quickly and you'll be able to pick yourself up and get on with living your life. You have also, I am sure, learned a valuable lesson about lying. It's not worth it. Write him an email if you want. Tell him you're not who you said you were and you're sorry you lied to him and took him for a fool. You don't really need to explain more than that. He will most likely be disappointed (assuming he is who he says he is) but again, he doesn't know you and if he says he loves you then it is the idea of who he thinks you are that he loves. He'll get over it. From now, be honest with people. You want someone to love you for who you are, and therefore you need to start being who you are and showing that to the world. Lies are hard to keep track of and you make life very difficult for yourself.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (27 May 2013):
 You have no other choice but to come clean and fess up. Of course he will most likely drop you like a hot potato but then eventually if you ever actually meet up the truth will come out anyway. Better sooner so you don't waste your or his time on a dead end.
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