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writes:I am a 51 year old male who is having a problem maintaining an erection. I am able to get an erection during foreplay and by stroking myself, when it comes time to penetrate, my erection goes soft. My girl friend who I love dearly, is wonderful, she has been very patient, although I know she is just as frustrated as I amI have tried many products I take argininie daily, recently I have tried Yohimbe, Steel Libido, Libio, Levitra. Any advice you can provide me would be greatly appreciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): Of the things that you have tried, only arginine and Levitra will do anything. Yohimbe rarely works, except to raise blood pressure. Arginine might work, but that is iffy. Since you have tried Levitra, I am assuming that you have already seen a doctor about this, unless you got it from a friend or from India via the web. I have used both Levitra and Viagra and Viagra works much better for me. I sometimes have the same problem as you if I take nothing. I think it is because there is a lull in the action before penetration happens. There are times when I am fine in the first position, but start to lose it when we change positions. Sometimes those few seconds of no stimulation can cause a problem.
If you have not seen a doctor, then that would be a good idea. Do you get nighttime or early morning erections? If so then the plumbing is working properly. If not, then you might want to see a urologist to have things checked.
Another problem could be hormones. As we get older, our testosterone levels start to fall and our estrogen levels start to rise. This is especially true if we are overweight. Some men have this problem in their 40s and others not until their 80s. I started to have that problem at age 62. When my testosterone and estrogen are at good levels, I have no problem at all. When they are not, I need some Viagra. Libido and sensitivity are also better when T is high enough. High estrogen in men kills libido. Men in their mid 50s and on tend to have higher estrogen levels than women do at that age unless they are on HRT. You might want to ask a doctor to check your total and free testosterone and estradiol levels. If your T is below 300 ng/dl then you have a problem. Actually, it should be above 500 to feel good at your age. I mention this because it is estimated that 30% of men over 50 have low T. The difference in having sex with good or bad hormone levels is sort of like this. When I have good levels I am hormy and just want sex. When the levels are wrong I want sex because I know I like it, but I just don't have that primal desire. If the latter describes your desire for sex then think about hormones.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (29 January 2010):
At your age its possible that your sexual performance begins to decline a little. Instead of everyday twice a day you are possibly looking at once or twice a week! But the overwhelming problem in these situations is often performance anxiety. This can set in when you fail for no apparent reason to perform on one occasion then the subsequent attempts result in subconscious anxiety that it might happen again. To rule out any underlying undiagnosed medical problems get a full physical. Smoking and drinking also cause decline in performance over the years. Viagra occasionally might help; in fact, it can 'raise the dead' (so to speak) so speak to your doctor about it all. Also, depriving yourself of sex for a couple of weeks might do the trick. So will less porno. Obviously I am not a man but I have dated two men in your age bracket and older so I have been through this with them; thankfully transient tho. All the best.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 January 2010):
You might need to go to the doctor and get yourself checked. Also, the frustration won't help, so you must try to relax more. But it might be worth going to the doctor to make sure everything is all working properly. Maybe they can prescribe something else.
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