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writes:The guy that I am pregnant by we were dateing for 3years,he broke up with me for almost a whole year I was deeply in love with him so the brake up was very hard for me, we kind of kepd in contact an what I mean by that he will only call me for sexs.... dumb me will do it cause I was still in love an he didnt want to be with me. After a while I told him I couldnt do this anymore it was just hurtin me more,a few days go by he finaly said sorry for what he had put me through an he wants me to be his girlfrend....i was still in love with him so I said yes.... So we been dateing for a 1year and 4months everything was going real good im 37wks pregnant now an about one month ago he started to change hardly wanted to spend any time with me then slowy started to ignor my texts nd calls he told me he needs his space so its been almost two weeks since I tryd to get intouch with him its killn me it hurts cause I think he seeing somebody else he hasnt bother to texts me to see how im feeling... Im cryn everynight for him I miss him=( SO NOW THAT YOU KNOW MY LIFE STORIE I NEED HELP OF WHAT I SHOULD DO??? ((p.s)) IM STILL IN LOVE WITH HIM But very hurt..../3 Thank you for who those who toke your time to help me out.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 March 2011):
 Yes, unluckily it's better if you prepare yourself to a life as a single mother . Put your energy into being healthy and happy , and raising a happy healthy child- without his dad . I hope he will take at least financial responsibility, since he seems to be skirting any other kind of responsibility.
You are giving birth in 3 weeks .. and he does not even bother to text you ?? He wants " space ".... so why did he get you pregnant then ? Dads, notoriously, do not get a lot of space !
I know that ,being in love, you must be heartbroken now, and this is understandable, but , maybe , in time, you'll understand that you, and your child, deserve a much better ,more serious kind of man in your life.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (7 March 2011):
 i am sure there are many different answers that could arise so I will give you just one possible answer.
The man is about to have a baby.. a life long commitment. With the baby, comes a life long relation to its mother (not necessarily meaning romantic relationship. Just that since you are the mother, for the rest of his life, he will always have something to do with you, whether he/you like(s) it or not. It seems like he may be taking his last few months of commitment-free life, to do what he wants. I don't think he's quite ready to be so tied down.
My advice to you, is to leave him alone. Send him all your ultrasounds and updates on how the baby is doing, but nothing more.
If, by 3 months after the birth he has not come forward to take responsibility and accept what his life is becoming, write him off and consider yourself a single mom. At that point, in my opinion, it's better not to have jm there, then to have him there and always hurting your kid because he says he'll be there but he might not.
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