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writes:I am 20 years old..and I have never been in a relationship or even a date.All my friends are in one,I feel like there's something really wrong with me,like I'm not pretty enough.People do tell me I'm pretty,but I dont feel so,maybe they lie.Total strangers do flirt,but then again guys are like that.I don't even want to hang out with my friends anymore because all they do is talk about their love lives or hang out with their boyfriends.I feel like I'd rather stay alone and like I'll never find someone for me.Don't get me wrong,I'm not mean or unsociable,maybe just nit pretty enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2012): Um ur problem is u lack confindence and guys no so I would fix the problem like ask someone u like out or dating websites or whatver but don't b so down I'm sure u pretty! And guys have all kinds of diff styles or whatever so it don't matter the way u look as long as u dress descent and do ur hair or whatever ur fine!
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (5 May 2012):
You are not abnormal just because you’ve never been on a date at your age. There are men and women out there who have not had a relationship or much dating experience at your age. Starting to date people earlier in life doesn’t mean that you’re going to be more successful at having relationships in the longer term. You are lacking in self-confidence, unfortunately. You do not seem to believe others who tell you that you are pretty, and you dismiss the flirting of others and don’t believe that they might actually find you attractive. “But then again, guys are like that,” you write. Maybe you give the impression of not being interested and so those guys then back off.I think you need to doubt what people tell you about yourself a little less. Also, don’t rush to find a date. There’s no cut-off point after which it’s too late. Start by working on your confidence and trying hard to keep up your social life. When a man shows an interest in you, don’t dismiss him or back off, but try striking up a conversation with him and seeing what you make of him as a person. The more confident you get around men, the less you’re going to appear disinterested, and the better you’ll feel about yourself. Remember, many relationships grow from good friendships, so working on that self-confidence is where you should start. That’s not just so that eventually you’ll find some-one who is right for you, but also so that you’ll just feel happier as a person.I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Alexandre  +, writes (5 May 2012):
 hello i may be male and only in year 8 but i know exactly what you feel.i have two best friends and they have been together for nearly three years now and they are allways together the girl and i live nextdoor to each other and the guy often comes to her house to see her and even thoudh weve been best friends since 2nd grade he never seems to have any time to be with me them being a couple, my only friends, it makes me feel left out because i never get to do stuff with them anymore, they just stay with each other all the time and stare into each others eyes. i wish i had a girlfriend. acctually i feel so bad about being constantly left on my own that im beggining to wish that i never met that girl.as for the fact of you finding love well just have some blind dates and never stop serching. who knows mabe one day youll fint the perfect one!! :)just remember this; your not alone so many other people fell the same thing as you. there is always hope.AlexC
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