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writes:I am 16 years old and I'm scared that I'll never find someone good for me. It seems like everytime im with someone, i keep thinking that they can change and believe them, and always giving them chances. Thats my problem because it is like im waiting for them to break up with me or something becuz i dont want to lose them and then i end up feeling broken hearted and knowin that they didn't give me the chance that i kept giving them is what pisses me off more. I am just worried that i wont ever find ''that'' guy and i know how everyone says there's a million guys out there and all that, but idk its hard to keep listening to that and not really believing it. i won't want to be past my mid-twenties and still single. im scared that i will never find ''the one'' Reply to this Question
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reader, lovesalias +, writes (23 January 2009):
 You still have a lot of life ahead of you. I think that it is a good idea to focus on you. What do you want out of life? Are you going to colllege, what kind of future do you hope for. Believe me, every woman no matter their age goes through this feeling you have. I'm sure that when you figure out what your goals and ambitions are in life and you work towards them...that "one" right guy will come along just in time. Focus on you and your future for now hun, there is a lot of time to fret over the opposite sex. Don't need to rush into anything. Have you looked into numerolory and astrology? Interestingly enough it tells you a lot about yourself. I think you may like it. Give it a try. I hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2009): Your not alone in thinking this. I bet many 16 year old girls go through this thought processing, i know i did!
I also know that round this age guys can be pricks, and they do hurt us, yet we sometimes still make the same mistakes.
But this is all neccessary to form a loving relationship that you are happy with! it is the bad times, that make us realise what we want in a guy, and what we deserve for ourselves.
You do not deserve to be messed around with, you need respect!
And i know how the sayings just seem like sayings, but it is true. I bet you in a couple of months even, youll look back on this time and think "if only i knew what i know now, i wouldnt have been so upset."
When you find a genuinely nice guy..and believe me they are out there, then youve got catch hold of him.
and it will make you appreciate him more. But for now realise that you dont need guys to make your life better, you need to accept yourself and treasure your friends!
Guys are there for that extra boosting of esteem, yet when you do meet the guy its not always going to be rainbows and butterflies!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2009): You know, it's amazes me that you think that far ahead. good job? I don't know whether all this anxiety is helping you in the long run or not, but I don't think it's a good idea to keep doing it and thinking about it. It will only ruin you. You're sixteen SIXTEEN! think about it. When I was your age, all I was thinking about is spending time with my freinds and getting my license as well as passing the tenth grade. What happend?! Why has all this "will I be single forever?" "will I truly find the one?" "is there still hope in my life?" You act as if you're 30 and single! You're not giving yourself the opportunity. Instead of wallowing in self pity and thinking what if, why not go out there and actually get a date. Go out and ask your friends if they know anyone. Sheesh, I feel like teens are loosing hope far too quickly these days ...and focusing on totally weird things. You act (or at least think like you're 30 and hopeless). Unbelievable.
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