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writes:I am 16 years old, I love my 35 year old teacher, he has had a wife and 3 children. We often send messages to each other. I am willing to be his second wife. What should I do to make him propose me? Reply to this Question
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reader, kat14  +, writes (23 August 2007):
 I really dont think this is a good idea. Most pupils have a crush on a teacher at some point, as they a a figure of authority. You often look up to them.For a start this is likely to just be a phase, maybe at the moment no guys your age are show you any attention? Think of how his wife would be feeling if she found out. This teacher if he got found out would loose his job, you'd probally never see him again. You could just forget about him and move on with your life. But think of the impact it would have on his.A teacher at my school got found out to be having a relationship with a pupil. It turned out infact there had been several pupils. He was taken to court and isnt allowed to have contact with children anymore. His wife left him.If you really like this guy maybe you should leave him alone. I know this probally isnt what you wanna hear but i think its for the best.
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reader, kat14 +, writes (23 August 2007):
I really dont think this is a good idea. Most pupils have a crush on a teacher at some point, as they a a figure of authority. You often look up to them.For a start this is likely to just be a phase, maybe at the moment no guys your age are show you any attention? Think of how his wife would be feeling if she found out. This teacher if he got found out would loose his job, you'd probally never see him again. You could just forget about him and move on with your life. But think of the impact it would have on his.A teacher at my school got found out to be having a relationship with a pupil. It turned out infact there had been several pupils. He was taken to court and isnt allowed to have contact with children anymore. His wife left him.If you really like this guy maybe you should leave him alone. I know this probally isnt what you wanna hear but i think its for the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): I would be interested in having you define 'love' for me. Teen females usually mix up crush/infatuation with love for their teachers. Teens toss the word 'love' around very carelessly, when all it comes down to is an infatuation. And how can he propose marriage to you when he has a wife and some kids? Think with your head, here, girl. You are most certainly not the only female teenager to express 'love' for an older male teacher and you won't be the last. This is sooo common in high school. Also, please tell us in what context are his messages being written to you. Does he express his heartfelt feelings of love for you or are they messages of friendship and support that a teacher would express to a student? Are your feelings of love for him...just one sided?
Just for the sake of you knowing this..your 35 year old teacher can never, ever date or marry you. He's be nuts to even try. If he does, he will lose his career, lose his wife and his family. The costs are too great. He knows this so if he is NOT expressing love feelings to you--it's because he loves his wife and he loves his career...and these are your feelings, not his.
If he stupid enough to be expressing love to you..he is walking a dangerous slippery slope and he and his career will go down in flames. And you get to stand by and watch his life hit rock bottom. Is that what you want for someone you claim to love? Because that will happen, dear. If you love this teacher, then you will not want him to feel pain, hurt and watch his life be destroyed. Give this one up. Because if you do pursue him then you are one, selfish girl who has absolutely no respect or understanding for the word 'love'. Love is caring, giving, not self-involved and getting your goodies when you want them. Do not pursue anything or cause any type of problem for this teacher. And if this teacher is making the moves on you then he shouldn't be in the education system and he is doing something very, very unethical. But, I have a feeling he is just your friend, isn't he? Maybe you can clarify that for us. I'd like to know.
Simply put, older male teachers do not date or have romantic relationships with teen students...plain and simple. Think what you like, crush after him all you want, daydream and fantasize day and night about him, waste your teen years pining over an unobtainable man...it's your life. But heed my words...you could destroy a good teacher's name, reputation and life..thinking the way you are, right now.
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reader, lovehate +, writes (22 August 2007):
 Honey listen, you can't break up his family, he has children! He is sick to lead you on like this, it's disgusting. You cannot be serious to want to be his second wife. You may think you love him, but it is wrong to let things go any further then texts or messages. He should'nt even be interacting with a student outside of school anyway. Teachers get fired for this reason, and for a good reason at that. A teacher at my school got sacked for having a relationship with a student. It is just wrong. Get out now before you hurt yourself and jepodise your teacher's family.
Good Luck..
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reader, chiikka skyyyyy  +, writes (22 August 2007):
okay im sorry but you guys are what 20 years apart? and your 16 its not even legeal.
also he has a family and he loves them you dont want to ruin that!
YOU WANT TO MAKE HIM HAPPY right?
well then leave him alone hes was too old and you havent even figured out life yet you still got a long way to go but if you really love him leave him alone:]
hes already got a family and they would be devasted to hear he got married to his 16 year old student.
you dont have to take or like my advice but i dont think its right.
xx-sami
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reader, prissy_162002 +, writes (22 August 2007):
U need to leave the guy alone or make him leave his family (which would be wrong also!)
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