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writes:I have seperated from my husband and met someone else who I fell in love with. My husband and I are now getting on well and he still loves me, I do have feelings for him but also this other man. I have two children with my husband, what should I do? and how do I know exactly how to feels?
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reader, nicky01 +, writes (23 August 2007):
nicky01 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi to the person that replied to my question i have taken on board what you said and it makes alot of sense.
I am trying to sort everything out at once and no time for me. I am going to take time out this weekend just fro me.
Thanks again.
Any further advice greatly welcome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): Hi - I am in nearly the very same situation as you apart from I have no children (which obviously impacts). I think it is important to analyse how you felt when you separated and why it happened - did the other man just fill time? Did he make you see life and yourself in a different and more fulfilling way? Did you feel like you had changed and this new guy met your aspirations for the future? I think with me I am still feeling hurt from my marriage and sadness that it has failed but I desperately don't want to throw away the opportunity for happiness - but over time I am coming to terms with this through a one to one counsellor (humanistic integrateive style) who is non judgemental and allows you to say that you still have feelings for both - which is normal. I recommend this for you because it is pure time for you to explore how you feel - it shouldnt be about couples counselling at this stage which may force you in a direction that is not right for YOU and you don't need to tell anyone you are going. Take time out for you in all of this and indulge in your own thoughts - rather than relying on either man it may be that you have a clearer idea by stepping back just a little from both? I am sure you feel the pressure of not being able to hold this situation as it is for long - but it is important that you give yourself space to work through your own feelings and I guarantee it will make your decision process a great deal easier.
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