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reader, Carrot2000  +, writes (4 May 2010):
 The last thing you want to do is listen to the advice of people who don't know any more about life than you do. At 13, they have no clue what they're talking about; they're dumb and want you to be dumb, too. Stick to your guns on this issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): Hold your head up high and tell them to sod off. I'd steer clear of them if I were you
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reader, raiders +, writes (3 May 2010):
 Respect your self respect your body hold on on sex. Don't follow the crowd be your own person and never give in to peer pressure. You have excellent moral and should not let other dictate to you whats right and and whats wrong.
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reader, LilPixie  +, writes (3 May 2010):
 I was in the same situation when I was your age. Best thing to do is to just ignore them. If you don't want to have sex then that's your choice, not theirs! Stick to whatever you believe, trust me, you'll be glad that you did later on in life.I lost my virginity last year to my boyfriend when i was still 17 and I'm sooo glad that I didn't give in to everyone else when i was younger.
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reader, lou_xx  +, writes (3 May 2010):
I totally respect you right now. You want to fall in love with a man and then have sex, good for you girl! Your friends may not see it now, but give it time and they will regret their decision to have sex so soon. Clearly these girls are doing it with random boys who dont care a lot about each other! In the long run this will only lead to STD's, pregnancy and a bad reputation. Virginity is a very sacred thing for a girl and you are right for wanting to wait for that man of your dreams. And yes, sex can hurt, but if you fall into peer pressure i guarantee you will regret it. You need to feel as if you are totally ready to give yourself up to this person and therefore it will be a lot more enjoyable!!hope you stick by your morals!! 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): Don't fall into peer pressure, keep to your own beliefs. You should never let anyone influence you otherwise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): congrats on being mature enough not to be pressurised into having sex. good on you !
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): sounds like the other girls don't have a brain cell between them, it takes a lot of courage to do what you believe when others like them girls are too stupid to beleive in their own values. I bet they are virgins themselves and just bragging to fit in with the crowd. I say enjoy being thirteen and stuff what others say, its worth waiting for that special person when your older. sex is for someone to share when your in love and when your older than now. Its not something a young girl at your age should have to worry about. If they still brag just hold your head up high and laugh because they dont know how stupid they are. I think its just them trying to prove to each other that they are "adults". I remember when I was in school and other girls kept asking me if I was a virgin. I just turned around and laughed when they used to brag that they weren't because I said I know who to point the boys too when they want to find an easy ride.Bottom message be proud of your values and dont let anybody say otherwise
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (3 May 2010):
 Do what you want. Don't let other people push you around. Don't break the law. That means waiting =]
It can be really difficult not to let peer pressure get to you, but maybe these girls are just jealous that you know exactly what you want to do. If you haven't even reached puberty then even more reason not to! Your body is far from ready to have sex (plus it would make the person you were having sex with a paedophile because of your age and physical state.) Ignore these stupid girls and do what's right.
I will add, however, that even though right now you want to wait until marriage to have sex, one day you may fall in love with someone and not want to wait anymore. And that's okay =]
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 May 2010):
 13 is horribly soon to have sex and having sex even before you've hit puberty sounds to me like something from a documentary about ancient tribal rites along the Amazon river.Anyway it's not even a matter of age but of not yielding to peer pressure. Only you get to choose when you are ready for sex, whether it be at 15 or 35- it's only right when YOU feel is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): Hey honey! What ever you do, DONT give in to peer pressure, it will be a horrible experience and you will regret it forever! I had the exact same thing, and ok this isnt the most honest thing ever, but what I did was we went away on vacation and when we came back I told the girls who were being all pressure-y that Id done it wiht this cute guy Id met on holiday! I know its lying but if people are really getting you down about it and making you feel like maybe you have to do something you dont want to... a little lie to these not nice people is nothign compared to giving up your virginity for the sake of girl pressure! :D
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reader, hpoco  +, writes (3 May 2010):
 Tell them they should be ashamed and embarrassed about encouraging another girl to lose her virginity. You don't have to be as easy as they are. Its waaay too young and anyone who would even take your virginity is either also too young, or a disgusting human being. Say NO NO NO, and wait until you are ready.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (3 May 2010):
 You are not ready for sex yet and you should not bow to peer pressures. Just ignore them and hold on strongly to your own beliefs.They do not understand the full implications of losing their virginities and having sex.They are just following the herd instincts and this is not a good thing.
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reader, single gal  +, writes (3 May 2010):
dont do anything you dont feel comfortable with doing. i like you idea of waiting for the man of your dreams. do that.you are still wat too young to be considering sex. and its illegal you should really wait and dry sex is really really painful (from what i've heard) and why would you want to go through excruciating pain?
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