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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm not unattractive so I don't know why but when i meet a gorgeous looking guy who shows interest in me, i tend to think after 'how on earth did i manage that, why is he interested in me?' and i see other girls who are beautiful that I'm jealous of and I'll think if he saw her, he wouldn't be interested in me..I just can't stand that i put myself down like this!! But then, I cannot understand at all sometimes why these types of guys would approach me out of all those other girls! I know not all men are shallow, but i can't figure out why they like me or what they see when they look at me? And I'll over think it so much that i wind myself up and become wary of the guy.What is the reason for me thinking like this and how can i change that!? Because i always ruin things with a guy cause i feel he is too good for me and worry that he will loose interest when he meets some gorgeous girl. How can i stop myself thinking like this!??!?Has anyone ever experienced this before....
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reader, kylieekristina  +, writes (23 May 2011):
 Yes! I have experienced this quite a lot. I currently am with someone who is 6yrs younger than I, absolutely beautiful, in shape from head to toe...and I ask myself why all the time. I'm starting to realize he may have a very low self esteem. He knows he's good looking, but has other question marks about himself. Now I wonder if that's why he's with me instead of another beautiful person. I'm also not his normal type. I'm the first white girl he's ever dated, and the first older. (he's Puerto Rican and Black mix) The only advice I have to try and get over that feeling of being not good enough and asking "why me" is to remember the things he himself has praised you about. And please remember this absolute fact: beauty is truely in the eye of the beholder....whats perfect 10 to you is only a 6 to another...... and why could you not be HIS perfect 10?? I also remind myself how good I treat him. I cook for him, rub his back, give him the best sex of his life (according to him talking to his buddie and me overhearing it) lol listen to him, believe in him....some young pretty girl may not do all of that for him. Hope i helped a little, but its hard to help when you feel the same way....your not alone girl!!
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