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writes:if he doesn't text me first what does that mean? i always am the one to start the conversation...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2011): I agree with Odds on this one. I'm around your age group, in a relationship for a year, and although my boyfriend and I used to text a lot, we've both matured a lot, our relationship has matured a lot, and he just isn't interested in texting so much, it frustrates him, he wants to talk to me, but there's better ways about it. Which most guys I've spoken to, my age, or in the their 20's, 30's, they don't enjoy texting. You'll also find it can be better to not text all the time, means you'll enjoy and appreciate the time you do have together.
However, that's more relationship based. If it's just a crush to say, it may mean he's not very interested in you, it may not mean anything, some guys, especially young males, they just do not think about these things.
So don't worry about it, goodluck. :)
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reader, Odds +, writes (26 October 2011):
 It depends on how long you've known him, what your relationship status is, and whether or not he normally texts anyone. Depending on those factors, what it means could run the gamut from "nothing at all" to "he isn't into playing games" to "he's very, very good at playing games."
If you post a followup with some more context, I'll be happy to help.
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reader, Doobie +, writes (26 October 2011):
I know I'm not helping anything, but I feel your pain.
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reader, Marktheblue  +, writes (26 October 2011):
I prefer to talk not text so maybe he just isn't really into texting. Don't read to much into it.
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reader, chocoholicforever +, writes (26 October 2011):
it could just mean that he doesn't place the same significance or importance on texting as you do.
another possibility is some times people assume rigid roles in their relationships. Little rituals develop around completely mundane things, that's the way such people want to keep doing things, because that's the way they've always done it. And maybe you texting him is one of those things. In other words, there may be no deeper reason for why he doesn't text you first, other than that this is how it's always been so he assumes this is how things work.
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reader, Batterytea  +, writes (26 October 2011):
 I agree with Sageoldguy1465.
I had this problem with an ex of mine. He almost never texted me and I found myself itching to text him all the time.
Word of advice: Stop.
It's called the Cat String theory. Basically, if you dangle a string in front of a cat and then take it away, the cat will chase it. If you simply give the string to the cat, the cat won't care about it.
Stop texting him. He'll think "Hm? Why hasn't she texted me?" and you'll likely find him texting you soon :).
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 October 2011):
 It means that you're "chasing" him.... That gives HIM all the power in your "relationship".... and saps from you any integrity that you would otherwise have.....
Good luck.....
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