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writes:I was wondering if from everyone's experience that the saying "once a cheater always a cheater" is true. I am asking because I have cheated on every boyfriend I have ever had except my current boyfriend and am terrified I will do it again. I always tell my partners I have cheated and they always forgive me which makes it worse, but I end up breaking up with them because they deserve better. I really love my boyfriend and want to make it work this time. I have also never been cheated on so karma obviously doesn't exist. I am 30 and too old to be acting this way. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): I am 33 and i have cheated on everyone that i have ever been with. I can't stop! I think it is just the excitement of not getting caught that reels me in. that and hot guys. the only way not to do it is to not let yourself be in a situation where you are going to be tempted. I know it is very hard, but if you really wanted to do it you could. I stopped cheating when i was 27 and about 6 months before i turned 30 i started to feel old and unattactive and i started cheating again and i haven't stopped since. usually when i cheat it is with 1 person and for a long period of time. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2007): Hi,
If it makes you feel better i was the same up until 27... I used to think it was because "my relationship must of been wrong" but at the end of the day (and after being cheated on myself) I realised it was own insecuritys that was making me cheat...It made me feel better to know I was wanted and lusted after... Dont be too hard on yourself and look for the reason you do it... it helped me!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 All of us have the option of cheating or not cheating. All you need to do is simply choose not to cheat.
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reader, love-him  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Its up to you, we cant do anything to stop you doing this.. truthfully you need to learn to say no and walk away.. thats all i can say.. mail me if u wanna talk x x xx
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reader, sexi  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Hi, maybe there is some truth in that saying but i think once you have found someone that you really love you would stop cheating.That would be the time when you will really be committed to your relationship and love one person unconditionally. I think you should stop now before it is too late and you lose the current special person in your life. If you carry on cheating you will end up hurting too many people and may just end up being alone, somethng you dont want. Have faith in yourself and trust that you would be faithful.
Good luck.
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reader, LauraE +, writes (4 July 2007):
Well it’s in your hands, and no one else’s, so you need to do something about it, because we all get older, and eventually you will stop getting the forgiveness and the offers! Do you always start one of these flings when drunk or under the influence of any other substance? Then cut down when you are out on your own. You could try thinking really carefully about what each episode of cheating had in common – were you feeling trapped for instance? Are you insecure and need the reassurance that you are attractive to more than one man? Do you feel the need to prove to yourself that you could still find another man if this relationship doesn’t work out? Then try to deal with the root cause. If you can’t do this on your own, you need to get professional psychological help.
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