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writes:I broke up with girlfriend two months back. i dumped her for cheating on me on facebook but the contact turned out to be her childhood friend only. i did try to win her back but she was just unmoved saying that it was me who dumped her and she stood by that decision now. recently i sent her card on her birthday and she haven't replied me yet. on her birth day i wished her through sms as well which she replied saying that " pls don't call me or text me but thanks though'" u guys tell me what would be the best way to win her back? should i be little slowly in my approach or should i keep on trying win her quickly?
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (8 October 2009):
 You got mad because you thought she'd cheated; broken a sacred trust. She got upset with you because your groundless accusation did the same thing.
Do not waste anymore time on trying to win her back. She is not interested, as another poster said.
There is a lesson in this for you. Be careful about jumping off the deep end when you don’t have all the facts, especially with people you are supposed to love and respect. She deserved to be heard on this matter.
I hope you learn from it and wish you luck.
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (8 October 2009):
 When I read your post the only thing that kept coming up in my mind was this post,
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/facebook-is-used-for-cheating.html
I am sorry to hear your jealousy and persecution complex got the best of you, but this girl realises she doesn't want a guy who doesn't trust her and then jumps to conclusion. I think she feels if you can do this to you once you can easily do this again and if you can easily break up with her for this, what the hell will you be like with a major issue? With boyfriends like you girls tend to walk on egg shells worrying if you will be ok with any action she does with a guy friend.
Unfortunately for you she has made it very very clear that she doesn't want to be with you and you have to respect that. You dumped her. You have to deal with the consiquences for your actions. Learn from this mistake so that in your new relationship you will learn to talk to your girlfriend about your insecurities rather than jump the gun and dump her.
HonningKanin
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (8 October 2009):
 You win some and lose some. Don't waste anymore time, she isn't interested.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): Just stay away from her, at least for a while. Giver her time to be alone. As for the cheating thing? What did she do that you consider cheating on facebook? The only thing I can think of is messaging someone, and if it was okay when it was with her old friend, but not if it was a stranger... Then you sound very controlling. Please clarify why you dumped her in the first place. Maybe you need to let her be and move on.
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