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22-25,
anonymous
writes:Guy Friend-really really good friends- kissed- better friends than ever- got drunk and told 1 guy- guy told my friend - my friend told me - confronted my guy friend - guy friend apologizes - I forgive. Then, the next day I think about how from a logical point if view, I'm supposed to be mad at him but I really wasn't. But that's not what I said in my text. I basically told him that I hated him. I didn't though. Then I apologized for overreacting then he forgave me. But now whenever we "cross paths", so to speak, he doesn't even look at me and before he used to wink. And we take the same bus to school everyday. It absolutely kills me to see him.I screwed up majorly. What should i do?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 September 2013):
 I'm sorry, maybe it's just me- did not have my morning double coffee yet, but I did not understand what happened.
Who kissed whom, and who is mad at whom , what for.
Why are you supposed to be mad at him ?...Are you mad at him because he kissed and told, i.e. kissed you and told another guy ?... Annoying, but, at his age, venial sin, and expectable . If you don't want people to know that you kissed guy X... then just do not kiss guy X- in your age bracket, and sorry if it sounds condescending but it's the truth, everything is choral, including sexual and romantic life, there's nothing really private, everything is shared with friends.
Anyway, whatever it is that caused the misunderstanding, I'd say that you did the best you could do . You explained that you had overreacted, and apologized, - he accepted the apologies. It's normal that there is an itsy bitsy touch of awkwardness after a confrontation / misunderstanding, don't blow it up out proportion doing or writing anything dramatic. Let it all boil down for a few days or a couple of weeks, then YOU start acting normal. If he does not wink, YOU wink first, or better, smile at him. A nice friendly smile, a nice normal hallo what's up, showing that it's all over now and as far as you are concerned everything is back on track.
If he still sulks ( I don't think he will )- let him be, in fact ditch him, he is not that great of a friend if he must make a tragedy of a misunderstanding.
That, supposing I've got the story at least partially right :)-
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