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reader, jerseyncorbinsmommy  +, writes (22 April 2012):
jerseyncorbinsmommy is verified as being by the original poster of the question He told me to come get my stuff... Lids are with me... He filed for divorce n it will be final in may... After gettin married in oct... Sadly it hurts alot
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2012): How did he kick you out? Where are kids? Out with you?
I wouldn't have let him kick me out. You have kids, he goes.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 January 2012):
 oh dear what a sad update. I'm so sorry.
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reader, jerseyncorbinsmommy +, writes (31 January 2012):
jerseyncorbinsmommy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell just an update.... He left me on the 12 th and kicked me out!!
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reader, jerseyncorbinsmommy +, writes (12 January 2012):
jerseyncorbinsmommy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, he is job hunting... Hes calling every other day... Iove this man to death and don't wanna see us lose what we have.... Then when I got home last night he wad really distant and I seen him texting on his phone but he was kinda hiding it... I went into his messages when he went to bed and he erased everything and usally he don't bother with that.... This is why I'm confused he's acting funny
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 January 2012):
I think it’s awesome that you guys are together and committed to each other…. Again Losing a JOB is a major thing for a man especially one who has a large family to support…. FWIW my fiancé is THIRTEEN YEARS younger than I am so I don’t’ see 4 years as a lot at all….
So in three months, he got married and lost his job… he’s had a lot of changes… have you been able to talk to him about it and is he job hunting yet at all??? Job hunting will help him if he can manage to get it done, even if it’s just one or two applications a day…
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reader, Crabman  +, writes (10 January 2012):
 @ChaliceODamnation good answer
if I may add ...
Im a guy who hates talking ... but my fiancee makes me talk to her & it breaks through my depression
so stay calm dont take offence to anything he says , but make an appointment if you have to
and get him to talk to you
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reader, jerseyncorbinsmommy +, writes (10 January 2012):
jerseyncorbinsmommy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes we been together 13 yrs and just got married.... We wanted so long to get married because truthfully I was scared to get married and our whole relationship change... We have four beautiful children and one on the way.... He's been my best friend for many years and he's 4 yrs younger then me but very mature... Just don't wanna lose what we have
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2012): First off, I commend Hubby for taking to the PS3. It could be worse. He could be out at bars. He could be at strip clubs. He could be online surfing porn.
Escapsim is escapsim. The concern would be loss of libido but I suspect it has everything to do with possible depression.
Much like when a woman is heart broken or struggling with an illness- her desire goes to zero.
Its not you. Not at all. I can't stand us women do that to ourselves. It was the job loss- before that things were good, right?
I think giving him space and time with gentle encouragement from time to time and giving him massages and making him his favourite meals will at least let him know, you are the constant and he will appreciate all you do for him NOW when he snaps out of it.
I'd continue to monitor it and if it gets worse- verbal outbursts, fighting, violence- then seek IMMEDIATE help as his coping and depression is out of hand.
Do suggest he speak to the family doctor just to keep in a good place. As Wife and Mother you do have that to say to him as he is Still Husband and Father and still has his duty.
Then hang in there, still go about your day as you would. He loves you and his Family, he is just having an inner battle of self worth.
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reader, malletchick76 +, writes (9 January 2012):
 you might want to read this article (kinda lengthy) but it does address the issues that your husband might be going through. *** dont be deterred by the debate of pornography (unless it is also an issue) because this article is really insightful and i had no idea how bad this is getting for men during the recession. good luckhttp://www.truth-out.org/capitalism-and-loneliness-why-pornography-multibillion-dollar-industry/1324586390
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 January 2012):
You are together 13 years but just got married? I have to ask why did you finally get married???
Men are very tied to their jobs emotionally and being the provider is a big deal for them…
Have you told him you miss him and want him?
This is NOT about YOU. It’s not a reflection on YOU at all… he lost his job and he’s probably struggling with depression… is he looking for a new job? That will help..
My fiancé plays an MMO all the time when he’s not working… but if I DEMAND his attention he will stop… but we TALKED about it first… I told him he could play but if wanted attention once in a while I would ask him to skip it… and he does now and then…
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