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writes:OK I gave this lady I like a compliment in a round about way here is the way it happened.I feel this lady is attracted to me but I was walking with her co-worker and she was communicating with her back and forth while we were walking together but never seemly communicated to me sorta like a playful ignoring is the best I can gather or the vibe I got and a bit of entertaining as well.So I thought if she wants to ignore me then I will communicate through her co-worker to get to her I have previously given her a compliment on a blouse that I thought was nice but it wasn't sexual in anyway just a clean compliment anyone would give someone like in a busy or friendly matter.The lady I like says she needs to start running and we know running helps in our cardio and fitness and keeps our weight under control etc., if we have weight issues. Anyway, she is 40 and I am 48 and when she said that she was walking ahead of me and so I communicated to her co-worker "Yeah like she needs it" as in running to get fit in a playful way and was trying to communicate sexual attraction when I said it but in a round about way but wanted her to know I find her sexually attractive as well without actually saying it like keeping her guessing.Reckon she picked up on this compliment or how would a lady take such a compliment?Please respond and thank you.
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reader, Appelle +, writes (18 March 2010):
No one said this but, she might think you were making fun of her. You kind of said it behind her back and it could have sounded sarcastic if she could not see your body language. You should really try talking directly to her. Also, try not to laugh if you are talking about getting fit because if she thinks that she needs to work out and you say that she doesn’t, can seem pretty mean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2010): I guess it's the social conventions that has me going about this in a round about way maybe I should just be a man and tell her how sexy I think she is and if that don't get across to her then nothing will.
You ladies are great maybe another thing is I need a boost to my confidence I have gotten myself in a rut as it's been awhile since I have been out dating but maybe you detected that already '-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2010): bloody mary, that tickled me! Men compliment me and i dont think they are wanting to ask me out. Ramp it up a little more, youre going the right direction. Mal
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reader, Bloody_Mary +, writes (17 March 2010):
 That's a nice compliment... But try saying it to her face :)
- Hey there. I heard you started running?
- Yeah, I want to get into shape.
- I think you already look great, but if it makes you happy... [look away] Fancy a jogging buddy?
- [giggles] Yeah... Sure, why not?
See? It could go that way. Admit it, you want to try now that I've shown you how easy it was ;)
Keep us posted, please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2010): Thanks for the comments.
You all are right why don't I ask her out is the big question?
I guess I am waiting for a clearer sign she is attracted to me but I do sense when she was talking to her co- worker it was in a way of her playing hard to get MAYBE but not really sure how to take it or to take it as not interested and the sole reason she only talked to her co -worker.
Oh well
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reader, Elly7  +, writes (17 March 2010):
I have to say it is a vague compliment. people compliment eachother all the time but doesn't necessary mean that the person is attracted to you. I seriously think you just need to be direct and out with it. i cant speak for all women but they like confident men who say whats on their mind.. well diplomatically :-)
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (17 March 2010):
I think that she would have gotten it and she would have been happy to hear you make a comment like that...but it's still very indirect, I wouldn't have thought that you had any interest in me with a comment like that. Then again, I'm pretty oblivious about stuff like that and wouldn't want to jump to conclusions and think, "Oh yeah, he wants me!" But I think you should chat her up every now and then, find out what she likes to do and figure out a way to ask her out by finding out more about her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2010): uhm... she might have gotten it, but at the same time it was pretty roundabout! If you like her adn you are both free and single, a better compliment would be to ask her out for a drink after work one day! Or on a weekend evening... say youd like to see her looking dressed up! :)
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reader, kayla20 +, writes (17 March 2010):
 i think she probably got the hint why dont u just ask her out
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (17 March 2010):
 I would take your statement as a compliment that I looked perfectly fine and didn't need to lose any weight. I'm sure she got it.
If you like her, you should invite her out to lunch one day!
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