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writes:Okay, some useful info, I'm 20 finished 3rd year at University, my girlfriend is 17 finishing Grade 12 High School, dating for 2 and a half months.Now apparently and I just found out about this today, she's going with a guy friend to Prom, I took it as an insult and she didn't think I'd care.Now, her reasoning:She made the table at her Prom, with her friends at the beginning of the year and this guy friend asked her to be his date many months ago.Now I recall some notes on the Prom Committee as I knew several girls on it when I was in High School and this makes a little bit of sense, although tables at my High School were finalized in May, not at the beginning of the year or even January.Secondly, her last boyfriend was with her until January, and was the same age as her but different school.I have not asked when this guy friend asked her to be his date, and I told her I think it's lame for friends to go as dates, she gave me the general spiel of it's not that important to her it's only Prom.This seems fishy to me for three reasons, and by all means feel free to tell me otherwise:1. If seating was done at beginning of the year, her boyfriend must have had a spot on it until they broke up in December/January, so even if her guy friend asked her on January, she could have thought of replacing him about a month ago for me, not that bad.2. She claims they have matching outfits, yet she showed me her Prom Dress 2 weeks into our relationship, and it's pink....her other one is black, so either he's wearing a pink tuxedo or a regular one, he's either a clown or it doesn't matter, but she thought of bringing this up for some reason.3. She's made it a point to me she wants to get fit and tanned for her Prom, about a month ago so we've started playing tennis and jogging together, yet she said Prom's not that important to her, and she didn't seem to bring the point of not going with me until I asked her if or when I had to pay for my ticket as I naturally assumed I would go with her.I intend to meet this guy friend by asking to come to one of her friend's parties implying I hope he'll be there, cause I feel this relationship is done on her part, but maybe I'm jumping the gun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): The problem with guys is they are paranoid. So it's not just you. You've got to trust your girlfriend, act normal around her, be nice to her, give her all the normal attention. Then if there is something going on, and I have read all your detective work (haha), then she will be guilty, because of your change of attitude. So she'll tell you. But it might be nothing!
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reader, niki20  +, writes (8 May 2009):
 at most highschools (i know there was at mine) there is a cut off age at which guests can be. but its usually around 21 i believe, or maybe even 20, you can talk to her tell her you want to go to her prom w/ her and that your hurt. it would be silly not get the scoop bc proms a big night. if you feel somethong will happen w/them then reason w/her and tell her your feelings.
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