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anonymous
writes:The idea of sleeping with someone scares me. Whenever such a possibility arises, tons of questions start buzzing in my head. What if he'll be put off by my inexperience? What if I don't know how to please him? I'm also very insecure about my body. I'm working on the latter by cleaning up my diet and working out regularly. Still, that won't take away the fact I have stretch marks on my hips and thighs and a couple of scars on my back and even my butt from swimming in contaminated water as a teen (causing furuncles). Every time I get close to a guy I push him away because I'm ashamed of myself. I'm never satisfied with how I look and I always fear a guy will be put off by me when he really gets to know and see me. How do I get over this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2011): To be honest I'm the same! I hadn't kissed anyone until very recently and was really nervous about only doing that - let alone having sex! In my case, it probably helped that I was very tipsy and he was one of my friends! Haha... I hate the idea of exposing myself to anyone, and like to keep myself to myself as the idea of opening up in that way to someone else is scary. I also fear what will go wrong... Having said that, I think if you start off slow with a guy you can really trust it should be easier, and a genuine guy will look at the person inside you rather than focusing on just your body. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2011): it sounds as if not really the idea of sex repulses you, but the idea of being vulnerable and naked in front of someone else because you're so ashamed of your body. I think the only thing you can do, is improve your self confidence (and yes, that sounds easier than it is:$). Not all guys are short-sighted people who will be repulsed by how you look (: if he loves you (which would be a good start if you want to have sex with him) he will also love you body ;) good luck!
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