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41-50,
anonymous
writes:me (i'm a girl) and this girl has been friends for a while and around november i told her i was bi..and she said its just a phase..and then like 4 months later i told her that i had no interest in boys..and i was lesbian and she started to accept it when i told her that i cnt help it..i can't stop..and then recently i told her that i had a boyfriend..and that he was amazing..(i told her because i wanted to be concidered normal..i wanted no one to judge me)and i asked her if she had a boyfriend and she said she's waiting on that special someone..and she said she is happy for me as long as i'm happy..and she dnt really talk to me much..she's been avoiding me ...why?
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (30 July 2009):
 Hi Hunny
Well Its all a little confusing, When you first told your mate you thought you were bi she told you maybe you were going through a phase..(maybe you thought she is never going to understand) Then 4 months later you explain that you have no interest in boys and you are a lesbian, She as you say started to accept this.
Then you tell her you have a b/f and its all amazing....If my friend told me all this in a matter of months I would be thinking she needed someone desperatly to talk to..
Hunny friends are not supposed to judge you and being happy is important to me with my friends..
How close were you two? as all this is quite important to you and you need to be able to talk honestly about it, You shouldnt feel not normal because you are attracted to the same sex.
She started to avoid you? Maybe she felt confused as to if you liked her in this way...Or maybe it was because she didnt no what was going on as your story changed quite alot in a few months..
Also I noticed there is an awfull lot you two as friends dont no about each other, Like asking if she had a b/f that is something most friends no about each other hunny...She said she was happy for you as long as you were happy but she has had a ton of mixed messages here and probably doesnt no what to think...(It says your age to be 26/29 is this correct love?)
My advise to you is always be honest with your good friends but make sure you no who your good friends are..Tell her the truth sweetheart, Somewere along the line she knows there is a lie as what you have told her is all contradicting. She is obviously waiting for the right guy to come along so she is not a lesbian this may have worried her a little but at the same time love if she were a close friend then she should be listening without judging and this is what makes me feel the age at the top is wrong, If you two were really close mates there would be a hundred things you new about each other and this kind of thing really shouldnt affect anything, Ive got lesbian friends Im not worried or judgmentle its there life to lead..You really need someone to talk to that will understand how you feel and just accept you for who you are..I hope this helps love TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXX
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