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writes:How would you feel or react if someone you were talking to created an account and used false pictures online and pretended to be someone else? Would it matter if they said they at first didn't know or trust you and were concerned about privacy so that's why they didn't use their own pictures? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): I once created an account and pretended to be a guy just for privacy reasons to protect myself from being stalked!!!!!! But somehow these people still find out so it is pretty pointless doing it. When i did go online and have my real pix and details about myself i got my pix stolen and people were creating other profiles of me and making me out to look like some kind of tart. I do not use anykind of social networking anymore because of this ongoing problem. DR CAL x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): I can understand that you need to be cautious talking to people online, but to the extent that this person didnt put their own picture up, well theres more to that.
A person might use a different name, but for everything about them to be completely false suggests that they have something to hide.
If they felt that strongly about not trusting people online then why set up an account in the first place?!
If it were me I would forget about this person, they would always lie, always have trust issues and at the end of the day,would you ever really know who they are?!
Good Luck.x
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reader, Abella +, writes (2 June 2011):
 I would be very concerned.
Certainly I would listen to their excuse, and mull it over in my mind. And if I had any doubts at all then, knowing me, I would try to think of other reasons they might have chosen to do this.
But before I did develop those thought I would question their confidence in themselves. What is it about themselves that they think could be improved by making out they were someone entirely different?
Why are they afraid to be themselves?
What is being achieved by being deceptive? Because they can keep the pretence going for a while, but if the relationship established grows stronger, and they want to meet the other party.
Then they will have to come clean.
Embarassing. The other person (the one being deceived) may question the integrity of the deceiver.
And if the deceiver is busted, then it will take time to re-build trust. Some doubt may linger, in the mind of the deceived person.
So why be deceptive?
Has the person, doing the deceiving, had problems before and are now super cautious and lacking in trust?
Do they feel there are things about themselves that would make them less attractive to their target group?
Are they married, engaged, much older than they say, in trouble with the law, or in jail, or much more or less anything that they want to hide?
Have they been banned from the site for unsavory behavior?
Are they just interacting on the site as a predator?
Or are they having a laugh, at someone elses expense?
For many people, finding out, that the other person has been making out they are someone they are not would be a deal breaker for the one who has been deceived. When the person being deceived finally discovers the truth they may want to cut all ties with the deceiver.
There are ways people can protect themselves from a predator. They can be less forthcoming and take things more slowly. And step away from more pushy people.
And there are reasons why people should take steps to protect themselves from someone who wants to make out they are someone they are not.
Maybe this question demonstrates the reasons why web-cams are so popular?
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reader, ClearSorted  +, writes (2 June 2011):
I think some girls may do it really for privacy concerns. Dont take such things to heart especially since you are online to have a good time rather than being caught up in bad feelings. Take care.
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