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writes:I am Divorced and have 5 kids. I met this incredible guy at work and have been dating him for the last 9 months. He has never been married nor has any kids. I was just coming out of a relationship and he was ending his first with a girl that had a 4 year old son. I wanted to take it slow, and so did he. But he want to be exclusive. I agreed. I have joint custody of 4 of my kids with my ex husband, and full custody of my youngest. He just barely met my kids and they adore him, and he likes them. He has met my whole family and I have met his. We take every lunch together, and leave together. And spend time together on our days off. Sounds great except last week he met my dad and my dad just thought the world of him. He told me to text him when I got home and I decided it was time to tell him how I truely felt. I told him how I was falling for him and that I truely believe that he was the one meant for me and etc... He didnt text back but it was late and I figured he was asleep since we had to be up at 5 in the morning. When I woke up....nothing. When I got to work....Nothing...After work he wanted me to come over and I didn't because I was so hurt. When he asked me if I was coming I told him no, and why and his response was that the text made him smile and he valued what I said but nothing else...This hurts so bad I cry every night. I know I have alot of baggage but I am a good person and fairly attractive. And to pour my heart and soul out to someone and to get nothing in return just hurts...To the point I want to end it. But he treats me well other than showing his feelings and emotions. In the 9 months all I have got out of him was I like hanging out with you and I obviously like you alot...I need some advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): As a single guy with kids, I can say that I am a bit terrified at the idea of hooking up with a woman who has 1 or 2 kids let alone 5. Does it mean I wouldn't if I felt right about someone? I don't know. Probably not.
But this may be scaring him. You shouldn't be haven't this kind of conversation over text, that is for sure.
You need to have a face to face with him and give him time if you care about him.
Perhaps look for other motivations as to why he likes being with you. Just to be sure they aren't less than noble.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (2 June 2011):
 Don't be so ready to end it with him. You say you poured your heart out to him? I'm thinking the things you said were very serious.
Why would you say them in text?? A talk like this should be in person face to face. It's possible that since you told him via text that he thought it doesn't carry on the heart significance you meant it with. Text is absolutely no venue for those kinds of serious discussions.
Meet with him in person and pour your heart out to him the right way. Look him in the eye. He also has to respond right there and gives him the chance to connect with you.
You've been dating 9 months - give him time to say the words you want to hear.
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