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writes: Okay so I have a two year old daughter with a man who (and yes I know this sounds trashy) I slept with for a few months and was friends with. I guess you could call it a friends with benefits situation. We were not in a relationship although I did have feelings for him. He ended up meeting someone he wanted to pursue a relationship with and broke off what we had. Our friendship dissolved and we went our separate ways, him with her and me heartbroken. Anyways soon after that I found out I was pregnant. I'd only slept with him so there was no question about who the father was. Me being I suppose a little immature never told him. I had a great support system around me and although I missed him, I knew my child would be loved. Now I have run into him for the first time in almost three years and he now knows we have a daughter together.In case it matters, he is still with his girlfriend (even has her initials tattooed on him). They've been together almost three years. He wants to meet her but I'm not sure how to go about it as I know it's definitely a touchy thing. My daughter has plenty of men in her life (my family is very filled with men and I have male friends who she refers to as "Uncle" as we spend a great deal of time together) but has never called anyone "Daddy". How do I introduce them? Has anyone been in the same position? (Having to introduce a young child to their father?)What do you think her reaction will be? She's definitely not a shy child lol.Thanks in advance.
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reader, van1llabeeen87  +, writes (12 July 2011):
 she has a right to know who he is.
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reader, van1llabeeen87 +, writes (12 July 2011):
you have to let them meet. if you don't give her the chance to know her father (even if you don't like him or have issues or w/e) she will resent you later. trust me on this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2011): Well it needs to be just you, him and your daughter, it's up to you weather you introduce him as 'daddy' to start with or you can wait, I personally would tell her first before taking her. It's her right to know who her dad is and he should of known from the beginning he had a daughter but there is no point dwelling on that now. It obviously needs to be supervised visits to start with until your daughter gets to know him and you feel comfortable leaving her with him. He certainly needs to build a relationship with his daughter first before introducing his girlfriend and you would need to feel comfortable with that. Good luck, I hope it all works out for your daughters sake
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2011): WHEN does he tell his gf/fiance about your kid?
WHAT do u expect from him?
Do u see yourself in another sex relationship with him?
U say your kid has many male figures in her life? Are u seeing anyone currently?
U say your 4 year old is not shy. What does this mean?
LoveGirl
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