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writes:Hey there, I just want some advice on how people have been able to overcome trust issues that were brought on by the betrayal of an ex partner. Im happy being single now.. but for future relationships I dont want to take past trust issues into a new relationship. My ex screwed me and my head so badly I have doubts in most men's intentions etc and I dont want too. I dont want to let what he did to me affect my future relationships...
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reader, Neisha4knight  +, writes (3 May 2010):
No problem i'm happy to help
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reader, Hard_decision +, writes (30 April 2010):
Hard_decision is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNeisha4knight - Thank you for your comment, thats actually a good way to go about it. =)
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reader, jdb1103  +, writes (30 April 2010):
I know how you feel. I had a similar situation happen to me, only in reverse. I am a man and I was betrayed by my ex fiance. I am a trusting individual, I generally give people the benefit of the doubt but after my ex betrayed me it made it very difficult to trust anyone. What worked for me to help build my trust in others back up was spending time with those close to me such as friends and family who helped me see that not all people are untrustworthy, and of course time.
It takes a lot of time to heal from betrayal and trust issues are very difficult to overcome. My advice, after you have take time to heal try to slowly get back into dating again. A new partner who is a better man and more trustworthy might help you build trust back again. While this may help I have also found that it is almost impossible to put the same amount of trust in someone else that you had in the person who betrayed you. This is upsetting, I know, but it can work to your benefit too. It may help you to pick up on warning signs that the other person is exhibiting, it will also help you to be more discerning of which men you put your trust in, and will probably prevent a similar situation from happening again. I know that you probably don't have a very good view of men at this time, but don't lose hope. There are good guys out there whose intentions are right and who will not hurt you. Don't give up relationships all together because of this man who betrayed you. When you find the right man who treats you good you will be glad that you are not with the loser who broke your heart.
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reader, Neisha4knight +, writes (30 April 2010):
I understand totally where you are coming from. What i found worked for me was trusting people with small things that wouldn't hurt me if they were to let me down. The more the person kept their word the more i ended up trusting them reguadless of what happened in previous relationships... I hope that helped you a little bit.
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