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writes:How do u take a relationship slow with ur ex...after being 2gether for 2 yrs..... :-/... my ex bf broke up with me last month after givn him some time in april to decide if he wanted to stay with me.. cuz he couldn't take the fact that I cheated on my ex husband with my ex husband 2 friends while married .. this cheating happen like 8 yrs ago .. and decided to txtn another guy to prove to him that am no longer a cheater and I can be trusted... but txtn that other guy backfired on me and he took it very hard... so now my ex came around txtn me and lookn for me still wanting a chance but he still puts me down as a cheater... he says he truly luvs me but I hurt him soo bad... he says that if we can take it slow... My ? Is how do u take it slow????.... We had sex already yesterday..... Thank u
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (3 June 2011):
 Was their a reason why you told your boyfriend about your affairs with your 2 friends?
Remember there is no context to when you explain something like that to someone. It may have happened 8 years ago but in his mind it happened in April.
So now he is going to have his antennae up - naturally - to protect himself from being cheated on. And expect a surly remark from time to time if you and he ever get into a fight.
This was a significant blow to him and do not expect a quick recovery or it to simply go away.
What you need is a starting point. Sit him down and explain to him that 8 years ago you were a different person - and explain why. Explain also that you said those things because you wish to not hide anything from him and that you understand it hurts. You can ask him how he feels about it to let him get it off of his chest. Then explain how much he means to you and ask if we can start things now.
Then go out for ice cream just to let the heavy air out of the room.
Keep us posted on here. I hope this helps give you some understanding.
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (3 June 2011):
Was their a reason why you told your boyfriend about your affairs with your ex-husband's best friends?
Remember there is no context to when you explain something like that to someone. It may have happened 8 years ago but in his mind it happened in April.
So now he is going to have his antennae up - naturally - to protect himself from being cheated on. And expect a surly remark from time to time if you and he ever get into a fight.
This was a significant blow to him and do not expect a quick recovery or it to simply go away.
What you need is a starting point. Sit him down and explain to him that 8 years ago you were a different person - and explain why. Explain also that you said those things because you wish to not hide anything from him and that you understand it hurts. You can ask him how he feels about it to let him get it off of his chest. Then explain how much he means to you and ask if we can start things now.
Then go out for ice cream just to let the heavy air out of the room.
Keep us posted on here. I hope this helps give you some understanding.
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