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writes:I met a guy online. He's going through divorce. His divorce isn't finalized yet. He's a US citizen but has international business in Filipine. He came to CA to visit me and took me to Seattle for a week. We did make out, but didn't have sex. When I came back to CA we talk it over. He said he's not ready for committment 'cos he's going through a lot of issues. So, I told him that we should just be friend and no sex. He and I are becoming to be close friends. He starting to share me things about all the girls that has fallen for him. He also told me that he did had sex with his females friend 'cos they want him. Then they got mad at him for not letting them into his life 'cos he's going through divorce right now. To me I think he's taking advantage of those girls liking him, but to him he said he's just a nice guy. I even told him that he likes it and that he's giving out miss message to those girls. I don't blame for why those girls are upset with him. He does know that I have feelings for him, but after I found out what he did my feelings for him has faded. He's coming to CA soon for business and I will spend time with him. Since I am a person that doesn't want sex for fun and he does, he tried to pursue me into having sex for fun. He said that he does has feelings for me, but I don't believe him, knowing that he had slept with most of his female friends. I just want to be his friend 'cos he's the only one that understand how I feel and knows me well since we only met online. I don't want to have sex with him because he said he doesn't want committment. I don't want to be like any of his female friends that he known and gave him what he wants. What can I do and say to be serious with him that I am not into sex. It seems to be that all of his female friends have low self-esteem. I am an educated girl, so I told him I won't have sex for him with him. I am currently always dating someone too, but I haven't find the one to settle down yet. Should I even share with him that I am seeing someone, too? Since he shares with me of how all the girls are into him. What is he trying to do here? Is he being a man whore like he said to me in a joke way or is he being too conceited. I don't mind him sharing all of girls-into-him stories, but I don't want him to take me as one of those girls. What can I do to set this straight with him? Does he really has feelings for me or just taking into his own advantages? Many times I've asked him to introduce me to his single guy friend, but he said I have too many guys chasing me already and don't need him to introduce. What does it meant when he said this?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 February 2010):
He sounds like a man who just wants sex and nothing else. He doesn't seem to care much for the trail of women who are hurt. I think you might be better finding someone else to be honest.
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