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writes:I was dating a player, and he keeps coming back for sex coz we have chemistry..I have been ignoring him..what is the best revenge? Is it better to confront him, and end it.. or be friendly and sweet like he doesnt mean anything to me, and gently pull away and refrain from seeing him, and mention that this wont work and we can be friends..etc...u know the usual talk, when u wanna break off with someone without hurting their feelings.!or play his game!?! stand him up?he is a great liar and manipulator too! fooled me too many times!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your great advice!! I will definitely cut him off and move on..i think i might have had a crush on him as a result of our sexual encounters...but yes, he 's an asshole and a user..and that has to be stopped permanently by me! and so far I'm doing that. He has many girls who suck to him big time, so he keeps trying tocome back for another fling everytime..that made me think maybe he has feelings for me.. and i did the same mistake over and over again.
but now, I have learned my lesson finally!! and thanks all for your advice, I will definitely cut him off, and hopefully I will forget him eventually with time! cheers!
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reader, thinkb4  +, writes (12 October 2011):
The best thing is to forget revenge and totally forget him too.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 October 2011):
 I totally agree with what everyone has said. There is nothing you can do except cut him off that will affect him.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 October 2011):
 He can't be "playing" you unless you enjoy being played with. He can't be having sex with you and use your body unless you allow him this. People will continue to treat you bad for as long as you let them. If you want revenge for this it would be more appropriate that you turn against yourself and this willingness in you to be walked over, because that is what is causing you pain. Not this man. You are doing it to yourself. All you have to tell him is "no thanks, don't fancy that" and what the heck would he be able to do? Nothing. He only ever did as much as you allowed him. You're the one who's responsible for taking care of yourself, he's not responsible for your well being, you are. So what exactly is it that you want to revenge, what is it he has done to you? As it looks from here you've used him sexually just as much as he has used you, thanks to the amazing chemistry between you. It takes two to tango.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 October 2011):
What you're asking is something that you can't have. You're asking how to get revenge on someone who never cared for you anyway, and won't care what you do no matter what it is. If anything, this will backfire on you because you'll look like a Bunny Boiler or something. Learn from this and just cut him out of your life. That's the best option. Anything else and you'll come of the worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2011): Honestly, guys like that don't care about the women they sleep with so trying to play his game won't hurt his feelings because he doesn't really care. The only thing that will bother him is if you ignore him and move on. Again, the only thing that will hurt is his ego but at least that's something. Guys like that are just a waste of time unless you want meaningless sex occasionally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2011): Stand up to him. Personally I'd start calmly and then crescendo into anger while listing all the negative things he is, lying, manipulative etc, and tell him that he can't just use people like that and that you deserve much much better
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2011): Revenge is not a good idea. But, total rejection is.
You say, "I am not available for sex. I am a woman of value, and you do not see it. Therefore, we cannot be friends and goodbye." No nee to be nice or not hurt his feelings. If he's a true player using you for sex, rejection will be good for him. Knock him off his "everyone loves me" kick.
Cut off all contact. No text, call, facebook, twitter, e-mail... nothing... That is better than revenge. He lost an adoring fan.
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